Get married now or wait

Sorry to hear your IVF was unsuccessful ❤️ But what exciting news about your engagement.


Obviously your ivf is very important to you and understandable you want to get it going ASAP (I’m sending you lots of love and luck for your next round). My only thought with the civil ceremony then an abroad reception is the baby. You would then have to factor in travelling abroad with a baby, childcare whilst there (as in you and your partner will want to celebrate and having a baby makes it harder), a passport for baby etc. Also adding on the cost of an extra person. If going for the abroad option I’d do it before baby arrives. Also once baby is here you will spend a million pounds on them but when it comes to spending money on yourself (including a wedding) your be like “ohhh £2.50!! Way too expensive” 😂😂 Could you do a civil ceremony here and the reception too? Then you could always have a honeymoon with baby and with friends. Like a big group holiday. Then it doesn’t need to be soon after the wedding. (Our honeymoon is going to be 8 months after the wedding)
I Like the idea of being married before baby comes but only because I didn’t and now I’ve got to re register my children because I’m now married. Also when baby was born I got upset that she was known as baby *maiden name* rather than my married name. It’s a little thing but i wish we had just quickly done it before baby arrived so we all had the same name. (This is just my feelings, I have nothing against unmarried mothers! I was one. I don’t want to cause offence to anyone)

I'm so sorry to hear that your IVF was unsuccessful, and hoping you have happy news with the next round.

I would get married now, it'll be nice to be married before a baby comes, and admin wise its easier. If you're not married before the baby comes you both need to be there to register a baby's birth as you need to sign to recognise the fathers parental rights. Also you'll need to change the birth certificate after you're married so that you all carry the same surname on the certificate, which is extra fees and time, and if you're married you don't both need to be there to register the birth, your husband can go in your place and do it while you and baby chill at home.

As for a reception abroad, I think its a lovely idea, maybe do it on your anniversary, sounds silly, but may be the thing that makes more people commit to going.

View quoted message Hiya, thanks for your response and wishing us well for the next round.
I hadn't even considered the admin side of registering the baby and I really like the idea of having the blessing on the anniversary of the civil ceremony, saves us having to decide which anniversary to celebrate.
I definitely think more people will feel obliged to come then but we plan on keeping it a secret just to be sure, will be quite sweet with only our immediate family knowing.