Getting married outside of your parish?

Hiya!

We did this a couple or three weeks ago.

It's really a "get to know you" if ours was anything to go by.

He sent us a few emails before hand with questions for the banns, we chatted about our backgrounds, how we met, our kids...and then realised we were at school together! It wasn't very formal at all really. We ran through the service together and told him our preferences where there were choices to be made. I had a list of questions and we worked through those. We talked about some of the practical aspects - Can I fit a male voice choir in the church? (No, sob) Who will walk me down the aisle. When can we do a rehersal?

He stopped short of offering us sage marital advice on the basis that we have been together 15 years (!) but did give us a little quiz to do each (not religious, just a quiz about communication from a self help book!)

We were there for 3 hours and I have to say it was really enjoyable. He remarked afterwards that he thought we should have met down the pub! He did say that we crammed about 3 visits worth of exchange into that visit though, so you r vicar may approach things slightly differently.

Good luck. (I'll bounce the vicar thread in a minute for you)

Oh, I just realised - I think you are doing it the other way around to us. We went to see the vicar in the parish where we are marrying, rather than the vicar at home here.

Don't forget you need the banns read in both parishes. The vicar of the parish that is not ours has asked if we can be there for them to be read -it's 200 miles away but I'm going. He's been really flexible and is arranging them to be read when I can be there. The parish here have just asked us to fill out a form and send £34 to have them read here - they are not asking us to attend to have them read.

HTH

We're friendly with "our" vicar who is in the church where we're marrying, we see him most weeks as we attend quite regularly. We've never met the vicar though to our parish church which is where we've got to go tonight, i was hoping it was just going to be a case of handing over the money and maybe signing a form or two so that the banns will be read, and i was just wondering whether what i was hoping would actually be what happened.

We are getting married outside of our parish and we had our first meeting which just involved some signed forms & a few questions on how long we had been together etc, and paid a deposit. One thing we did have to do though is attend 26 Sunday services in the church we are marrying in! I have now been 22 times so only four more and then I am a member of that parish, I cant wait! After I have attended 26 times our banns will be read in both churches and then we will need to make ceremony choices for readings and hymns etc. xx