Gift list ideas

Is a tough one as we are the same, our house was flooded a year ago and had full refurb and everything is brand new so need nothing and I really don't want people to spend money on random gifts we wont use. I know some people font like giving money but personally I would rather give someone money towards something they want. Not sure how you could do a list with things on if there is nothing you want or need. I know there are some sites you can set up for people to buy an experience such as a meal out or spa treatment on your honeymoon but you actually just get a lumpsum at the end of it, but makes them feel they have bought you a thing if that makes sense. Nowadays it is more common though to ask for cash, we have worded our invites to say:

We have been asked about a gift list, but as we have been together for 5 years and as many of you will know, our house was fully refurbished last year following the flood, we have already accumulated quite a life together. If you feel you would like to gift us with more than your presence, a contribution towards our honeymoon would be greatly appreciated. We have set up a bank account and we will be happy to share the details with you. However, what we really hope for is that we get to celebrate our special day with you.

I know you don't want to upset people but it is your day and as a guest I would suck it up and do what the couple wanted, I am still spending money on a gift but is just not physical, which is ok. Good Luck and hope you can do something that works for you

I never understand why people get so het up about honeymoon gift lists if they don't also object to store based wedding gift lists - I don't see it matters if I spend money on a physical item or the same amount of money on an experience - in both cases, the bride & groom know exactly how much money I've spent!

We asked for donations to a charity that was close to our hearts instead of wedding gifts. Although we still found some people insisted on giving us a 'thing' instead! Perhaps you could ask for honeymoon donations OR donation to x charity, and then people who don't feel comfortable with giving to a honeymoon have another option? Be prepared that you'll probably still get several Mr & Mrs mugs or 'Just Married' decorations, whatever you specify...