Gifts from evening guests

Personally I wouldn't - but I have recieved one before as an evening guest

Nor i.... dont think its etiquette to ask evening guests for a gift......

I wondered this but then a similar thread appeared a while ago and in the majority people seemed to think it was fine. From that I was planning to - but with a note in saying we didn't expect anything. I just think this I guess because personally, as a guest, eve or day I much, much prefer a gift choice and in evening invites i've received at least half have included a gift list/request for vouchers etc.

But now I've read this I'm not sure we should (literally sending our eve invites out this weekend!) Hmmm. We've sort of even considered items that eve guests may like to buy, e.g. put items on our list for around £10-£15. Not because we expect a gift but because we thought it would make it easier for those that want to. Not sure what to do now!

Of course you will recieve gifts from evening guests but its not the norm. The way i see it, if you are invited during the day a gift to the bride n groom is also a means of thanking them for sharing the entire day at great expense.....plus you are there during the day as you are nearest and dearest. Evening guests arent costing as much (in a way) and arent necc 'as close'.

From my evening guests we recieved a few vouchers, a dinner set and a humerous key fob. I had many cousins who didnt give us anything but twas lovely for them to be there...

Hmm, I'm not putting anything in either day or evening but I suppose it would be useful. Will people not just ask you what you want anyway and then you can just direct them to the gift list?

Sorry thread hijack - lamby can't believe it's time to send out the invites!!!!!! Mine haven't arrived yet from printers. Better get a wriggle on. ?

I didn't put anything in either of them but have been feeling uncomfortable when people come and ask me! So now I'm giving the directive out on our amendments (venue change) to make it easier.

I felt really rude about it...we've decided we're not going to ask evening guests but will put it on the day guests

Thanks for your help peeps, greatly appreciated x

Our evening guests will receive similar guest info to the day guests & I'll include info re: gifts. Of course we don't expect anything but if people do intend to buy gifts then they have a steer that they can follow or not - completely up to them!

I don't see gifts as a 'thank you' for the day more as a gift given to be used in married life or in celebration of their wedding. I've declined evening invites in the past & still sent a card and token gift.

Our day and evening invites were exactly the same. I couldn't be doing with faffing around with different invites. So the gift info went with both.

not sure if i would include them in the evening ones myself. I might not be putting them in my invites at all. Our parents, (OH's esp!!) are quite oldfashioned and think its a bit cheeky to "ask for a gift!!" I dont but i dont wantr to upset the in laws too much!! They will just fond ppl ringing them steady to find out where the list is!!

We did not put a gift list in with our evening invites but just about everybody who came gave us a gift of some kind

Debbie

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I havent put them in my invites. I felt a bit cheaky... as if they can only come if they buy a gift!

Im sure people who want to buy gifts will just ask what we want :o/