Great 2 p'd off people and now I dont want my hen at all!

Poor you! This would be my idea of hell too!!

i think asking your OH to speak with the BM may be the way forward. But you may simply have to phone her and tell her that there is no way you want a stripper!

You may not like my suggestion but I do totally agree with you. I do think you should ask for her partner to talk to her about it maybe if she hears it from another route other than you or your sister she may realise you really don't want one.

But if it happens, if it were me and a stripper turned up - I'd get up and walk out Im sure like minded friends of yours will follow and it will leave her and the stripper feeling very embarrassed - plus you will look more empowered rather than deflated and cancelling when people have paid and are looking forward to spending time with you.

If your friend is that gutted, but her "Magic Mike" - Channing Tatum film on DVD for Christmas!!

Good Luck x

I'm glad I'm not the only one who see's it as hell!

Iv told her again and again I don't want one. When she has her hen she can have as many as she wants as that's her choice. Just feel abit like she's trying to force me into it. But now she's said, ok just wante you to have a great hen not saying it won't be good but I get what your saying.

So maybe the cloud has a siler lining? Until tomorrow when the thought pops into her head again ha!

I did say to my best friend if one turns up I'm going to a different club. I won't be forced into something I don't want to do. So yeah I get what your saying there.

Somehow I think she's lost the idea this is MY hen. In a way I think she's trying to spoil me some more without understanding that's not what I'm into or want.

If I was a guest at a hen with one and the attention wasn't on me... Or the man, then I'd have no problem, I'd sit drink my drink and laugh along. But to be the person in the chair... No thank you!

Not my idea of a fun night either - glad to hear you have it sorted.

Oh yuck, I now have some hideous images in my head, quick need something to distract me!!!!!

I totally agree with you. A stripper would be my worst nightmare! Some of the stories I've heard about what some of the strippers do is nothing better than sexual assault! Luckily for me my family and friends know it's not my thing at all so good for you for sticking to your guns. Like the OP said just walk out if they turn up and let your mate lap it up!

This ^^^^

I'd happily watch magic mike over and over again, or be in the audience at a dreamboys show but to sit there and be expected to cop a feel of his muscles or lick whipped cream or .. You know the rest. I honestly wouldn't feel comfortable so I understand you completely Mrslizziew2be!

Yep I hate it too... female strippers dont bother me but the male strippers make me physically feel sick, I have never seen one thats my 'type' in fact they always look like the douchebags I try to avoid

I will probably have nude men at one of mine but thats part of a comedy act so no grinding/trusting/rubbing etc... just giggles

My friends all chipped in and got me a stripper for my 30th. I was mortified. It was the most embarrassing 20 minutes of my life. I hated it. The stripper was only about 5 foot tall, and he just looked like an incredibly muscled child. It made me feel sick. All my friends crowded round, so there was no escape. I had to grin and bear it.

It was kind of my friends to try and make my birthday special, but it was not my thing at all, so I feel for you. I think the only way forward is to be brutally honest with your friend about your feelings, make her understand and tell her that if one turns up, you will leave. If that doesn't work, then as others have said, talk to her OH. She still might not get the message, but then at least she won't be surprised when you walk out if one turns up.

x

Hi ladies, thanks for the replys. Last night I told OH what went on and he agrees with my friend! After 8 years together I'd hope he knew it wasn't for me. He said he does understand why I don't want one but I should just enjoy it... NO!

Even with him saying this it hasn't changed my mind at all. I will still walk out if one turns up.

I don't think I could tell the friend anymore then I have my reasons why I don't want one, so the hope is she'll drop it now.

Thanks for understanding ladies

Heavens to betsy, 20 minutes?!!! I'd've died of embarrassment by then!

As may be clear, I'm another one in the definitely no strippers camp. (I also hate penis-shaped "accessories")

Glad to hear things have worked out ok for you Mrslizziew2be, and hope the hen dos are fab.

Thank you

yeah I don't get the willy thing, I'm a bride to be not someone who wants the world to think I get thrills out of blowing a willy whistle or drinking out of a willy straw! I'm not a teenager anymore, they may of been funny when I was 18!

You aren't the only one. My MOH would have loved to get one but she knows I would have thrown a wobbler and it's not worth her wasting her money!

I said no willies, no sashes, no t-shirts and no fire-hazard veil for mine! Def not my thing!!

I'm an ex-ann summers party organiser so I totally get the willy thing and expect them in abundance on my hen lol. However, I can't bear dressing up. I told my lot that if they tried to force me into fancy dress, I would leave. Fortunately, they listened and even though I don't know what will hapoen, I know I don't have to dress up.

Stand your ground - it's your hen night after all!!

Oh I do have a tacky tiara with a veil , garter to match and a sash! But that's enough for me! My OH had a willy whistle for his stay, a willies on springs on his head and a 'hen night' sash... In Brighton and everyone through the was gay... But he just shrugged it off and made a point of keeping it all on all night ha!

This isn't pay back for he partner going to a strip club is it?

I hate male strippers or anything rude really when we're out. Not got a problem with OH going to a strip club though, tbh saves me a job ?.

Sick to your plans and walk out if one turns up, but I doubt one will. She would have to pay the bill for him single handed.

Totally with you on the no stripper thing, I'd be mortified. I think by the sounds of things your friend is being selfish and pushing it to get back at her OH. Stand your ground I say. If only men had the balls to stand up to their mates if they don't want a stripper... (never going to happen to anyone ever).

I'm not sure it's pay back as she helped the BM orginise the stag, and she seemed fine with the strip club.

At the strip club 1 member of the stag pain for my OH to have 'humiliation' done to him where he was dragged to the stage, made to act like a dog, then had 18 lashes across him bum and lower back ( that drew blood) with a belt! I was texting the friend when I found out laughing about it and she told her OH I don't know it was strippers who done it to him and that my OH told me his friends done it!!!

Starting to think she reads half a text and makes the rest up. My OH has no reason to like to me and told me everything that went on on the stag!

Somehow ISO think she was trying to get one up on the stag with the stripper thing though!