grey cocktail dress, silver bag, silver jewelery and GOLD shoes??

I wouldnt put gold with it!

If they paying can you insist on silver? How good is your relationship to be able to say they have to be silver?

Oh dear, gold and silver - isn't that like illegal or something?!

Those bridesmaid dresses are lovely. I was going to have dark silver, but ended up going for raspberry pink with silver shoes and wraps, with the boys in dark silver waistcoats and ties.

she was the one that suggested silver in the first place though, it was agreed upon by all that they'd be silver and my other bridesmaid has bought hers on this understanding.....

it's my future SIL, Oh has strongly suggested she wears something different as it'll look odd.

i've said if she refuses to exchange them then i'll buy her some shoes. sh'es also refused to have her hair and nails done with us and wants to meet us at the venue not travel in the same car as us. honestly she's being a royal pain in the butt!!

I have a BM who is proving to be just the same! So much so I haven't bothered buying her a dress yet!

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She sounds like a nightmare!

Ps I was looking at getting those BM dresses too!

I notice she's bought her shoes from Long Tall Sally - maybe she has big feet and can't find any silver ones in her size? (I may be completely wrong!)

Don't let it ruin your day though, people will be too busy looking at you to worry about what she has on her feet!

I love the BM dresses by the way.

she has big feet (a 9 or a 10 i think)- after a quick google i've found 5 pairs under £30 that are in stock in both sizes. i've emailed them to her offering to pay for them as i really dont want her in gold. i think 5 choices is enough. dont you?

I controversially think the shoe would look ok with the dress because of the gold detail in the buckle.

But then I'm a bit nuts like that, I quite like gold sandals with anything!

This, but I'd be more concered that they are a bit clumpy, tacky looking and a bit beachy, rather than delicate, elegant wedding?

the blingy bit is a brooch, we have removed them as they are a bit tacky (being cheap chinese copies)

maybe if she had a gold bag it'd be ok - but it's silver...

i think it might be a bit miss matched

I like mismatched ?

But in all seriousness, she does sound like a PITA. And if you have specified the colour, she should stick to that. It's not as if she'll never wear silver shoes again. Don't offer to buy them for her though, it's not fair on the other BM's.

Me too! I don't think the gold is a prob as you have the gold buckle of the dress and gold on the bag (looks like that int he pic anyway), howvever the shoes are awful for a wedding!! If she is tall and doesn't want to wear heels even ballet pumps would be better than those. If you have tried to talk to her about this and failed could you get one of the otehr bridesmaid's to talk to her?? Maybe they could talk about what shoes they have and explain that they wouldn't look right together. I have told my BM that she can pick whatever style dress she wants as long as it is in dark purple. She has good taste but you've got me worried now ? hehe!

Errrm no gold shoes just would not go for nme

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I'm having major trouble with a future SIL at the moment, maybe have a nice word with your future MIL?? See if she can change the SIL's attitude to YOUR wedding? xx

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They aren't even pretty,wedding type footwear! i wouldn't wear them even as a guest.... What a PITA!!!

Shes ordered almost identical ones but in silver

they're still hideous but that'll teach me for saying "as long as they're silver just buy something that you like / are comfortable"

oh well. semi resolved i suppose. good job i'm not a bridezilla eh!