Groom has cold feet... :-(

I don't feel like I can offer much advice but have a hug from me too. Do you see the problems you've had as resolvable? There may be a way to fix things, but he needs to want to as well. Try not to worry too much about the costs right now, I know it's a lot of money but figuring out whether the wedding is the right thing for both of you is more important.

You poor thing, I'm so sorry you're going through this.

Did you have a chance to talk through it all properly? If not, see if someone will mind your son while you have a talk.

Rather than cancel could you postpone for a while until things settle down?

Big hug ?

I am so sorry. ?

Firstly don't worry about cancelling anything or the money.

Secondly you need to sit down just the two of you to talk things through properly and find the root cause of his reaction and establish whether it is fixable.

Good luck x

Have some huge hugs firstly x

I don't have much advice for you that is different to what has been said, but I definitely wouldn't rush to cancel everything just yet.

Postpone certainly and give yourselves time to talk things out and see if you can resolve things.

Good luck!! Xxx

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Don't have much to add other than try to have some time together to talk things through and see if things can be resolved. Can things be sorted out with his family? Perhaps if they know how serious things have become they might try and play nice so you guys can get back on track? Sending hugs x

So sorry to hear this xxx

Big bear hug, I agree with the others try not to be too hasty. Talk the issues through. Xx

Didn't want to read and run. So sorry to see this.

No more advice than the others really but wanted to send big hugs to you. We are all here on hitched for you to talk to and rant if you need to.

I have had no end of wedding problems with my OH, so much that the wedding was almost off cos of his cold feet. After advice from these lovely ladies, we had a massive talk about things and worked through a lot of stuff. Underlying problems that I hadnt seen cos I was too engrossed in the wedding.

I suggest try and talk things through before making hasty decisions of cancelling or breaking up. At the least could you push it back rather than cancel? We just had to do this due to fellas redundancy x

Hugs x I'm so sorry

Can't really offer any advice that's not already been said but I hope it all works itself out...

Sending you a hug, have a good talk with him and see if this can be resolved xx

I'm really sorry to read this and am sending hugs.

I completely agree with what has already been said. You need to both talk. Money doesn't matter (75% is better than loosing 100%) and at least you can discuss it now rather than the day before or in the days after. Have you been in contact with hin since you moved out last night? There could be so many unseen factors in this that I don't want to add anymore until you've had a chance to chat and consider your own feelings as well.

Good luck whatever happens and we are here for you.

Sorry this has happened.

I do wonder though if this has been brewing for a while? I remember your previous thread where you said he hadn't been saving and you'd been paying for everything, and he wasn't contributing.

You need to talk, just the two of you and see if this is something that can be resolved.

I'm so sorry to hear this :'(

Really sorry to hear, must be tough and I definitely agree that the two of you need to sit down and talk through the issues to see if it can be saved.

Best of luck!

I'm sure nothing anyone says right now will stop you feeling upset, of course you have more then a right to be.

I wanted to say though, although it wasn't a few months before our wedding my OH didn't know what he wanted anymore 2 years ago, things were off between us and one day I asked what up an he calmly said he dosnt know, said he was going to stay with his sister for a while and packed a bag and left. That day our daughter had a major hosp appointment so wet alone but kept him updated. Said we'll be waiting for him when he wats to come home and has a clear head. It was very civil between us as their was no fight... Nothing! That night he came home tail between his legs saying he'd made a huge mistake.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that sometimes men bottle up their emotions and don't know how to deal with them, try talking to him about serspific reasons why he wants to call it off other then the reason 'we're not getting along'. If you can break down the reasons why your not erring along there may be a way to resolve the little things that are creating the big thing.

wishing you all the best.

Really sorry to hear this :-(

So sorry to hear this..... As everyone has said postpone rather than cancel to give you time to try and talk and work through the issues.

Have some hugs ?

I hope you can work things out.

So sorry to hear this. I agree with others have a talk about your relationship and go from there.

I hope everything works out for you xx

I really feel for you. I am so sorry this has happened. I have no advice to add, the other ladies have said it all really. I hope you get to have a really good talk and work things through.

x

So sorry to hear this. Sending you big hugs and hope you manage to work through this x

I hope you're looking after yourself and at some point you have the strength to talk this through, sending loads of hugs.

At this stage you and your partner are so invested in each other and your lives together it would be so sad to let this go without making sue you have tried everything to make it work. As everyone has said, talking to each other when you have plenty of time, child care is sorted and you can be calm and respectful to each other is key. If this doesn't seem to be getting you anywhere you may need some professional help so don't be afraid to check out couples counselling for this...

So sorry to hear this. Hope you manage to work it out.

Very sorry to hear this, i really hope that you can sort things out, big hugs x

Oh I'm so sorry hun, I do hope you manage to sort things out. Sending hugs ?

Please talk to each other, find out what his going on in his head. I agree with another poster who mentioned about your previous post about OH not contributing much to the wedding. I thought then that perhaps there was more going on underneath the surface. Anyway, good luck and I hope you manage to work things out.

So sorry to hear this, I really hope you can work things out.

Can't the issues with his family be resolved? Even if just for him and you try and bit your tongue on the surface? Is it worth risking your relationship with him? Whatever the situation, like the others said, it has obviously been breweing for a while. Have there always been problems with his family or is it wedding related?

Sending big hugs xx

Really sorry to hear about this, big hugs to you. I know it isn't what you want to hear but at least he is being honest with you. This weekend could you both spend some time thinking of what is for the best or meet up to talk just the 2 of you? Are you sure this isn't just last minute nerves or does he have genuine doubts about your relationship?