Guests inviting plus ones without asking!

Honestly? For an evening guest I really wouldn't mind. I just don't think it's worth the conversation.

Erm... That's downright cheeky! Not to mention rude. I'd be honest and say that you assume there must have been a misunderstanding as the invites don't include plus ones and you wouldn't want your friend to feel silly on the day, or something.

Or, you could just be more blunt. One of my friends asked if she could bring a date. I just said no.

We were strict on numbers, so I guess it depends how much it bothers you. If it doesn't, don't worry.

I wouldn't be that bothered if it was just for the evening doo chances are you wont even notice this person anyway.

That aside the guest who invited a plus one without asking (or it being included in the invite) is bloody cheeky!!

I wouldn't just assume it's not her partner. An English sounding name doesn't preclude someone from being muslim, and even if they aren't, how can you be 100% sure your friend wouldn't date someone non-muslim. I would ask them who they are, just 'out of curiosity.' I wouldn't mind if it's just evening, as it's not an extra cost, and you probably won't really see them anyways!

I know he wouldn't date a non-Muslim because we've talked about it. Anyway just Facebook-stalked her and her page is covered by pics of her and her boyfriend! Now OH is worried this person we've never met is going to bring her boyfriend and we'll have a neverending chain of uninvited plus ones, haha.

If it was the daytime I would be pissed off. Honestly by the time you get up the evening you won't care. I had s few evening guests bring plus ones that I hadn't met or had only met once. It diddnt phase me.

one thing our venue told us about the buffet was to remember no one goes in a night out without eating? So the evening guests will have eaten before they come. I always worry about there not being enough food but actually there was more than enough to go round, even with the extras!

Hi there

I think it is correct to say you wouldn't notice at the evening. However, it is not right; it is rude and presumptious. I would say no on principle. As you have discovered, this person isn't even their partner! Imagine if everyone did it, then there definitely wouldn't be enough food!

If it were me, I would say something - it is such a rude thing to do! Maybe just say something like you are restricted on numbers, and aren't giving plus ones. Also, if I have read and they are a work colleague, it may be they give other colleagues the idea that that it is an acceptable thing to do!

Thanks, I might ask who she is then see how he reacts before deciding what to say next. To me it just seems like such an odd thing to do so I was a bit thrown!

Very rude just inviting a random, I think just leave as most have said as its the evening. Totally a different kettle of fish if it was the wedding breakfast etc.

by the way how do you quote other people's comment, I can't seem to do this. Thanks,

I would leave it just for this one and the lady you mentioned. Obviously if everyone started doing it then you would have a problem, but most receptions end up being overcatered anyway so not to worry too much.

I know the thought of a randomer there isn't always pleasant, but honestly by the evening you won't notice/care.

I had a friend who accepted to my hen do and asked could she bring the friend who was also going to be her plus one for the evening do, I said yes and was pleased I could at least meet this friend before the big day. Then she actually arrived with someone completely different to my hen (who didn't speak to any of us, racked up a massive bill and all my friends and I had to cover it, and bailed early dragging my mate with her). Then my friend contacted me to say she was bringing a different plus one pal for the wedding reception which I said was fine. Then on the night she actually brought her sister instead! I just made small talk and left them to it and didn't really care that much.

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Great thanks, why didn't I ask sooner......