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Hannah
Beginner January 2023 South East London

Guys suits

Hannah, 25 September, 2022 at 10:26 Posted on Wedding Attire 0 7
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Hi all! Myself and my other half have three brothers each, with the two best men and my dad we thought we would ask our brothers to wear the same suit (as there’ll be nine of them). We’ve sent them the link to the suit to be hired and told them what to do. One of my brothers is skint so I’ve offered to pay, but for the rest of them their reception to this ask has been seriously tepid. I’m a bit annoyed. We’re genuinely not asking much of them other than this one ask (and to be there on the day) and now I can’t help but feel as though we’ve brought pain upon ourselves with this idea and should have let them done what they they want. It’s frustrating because I know the pictures will look really lovely with matching suits, but is the stress of herding men worth it ?? 😂 I keep to-ing and froing from having conviction in our idea to giving up. Any thoughts or advice welcome? Thanks Smiley smile x



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Latest activity by Hannah, 6 October, 2022 at 09:32
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    VIP April 2022 Wiltshire
    Charlotte ·
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    I get where you are coming from, and it is a nice idea but cost to some people is a very difficult thing as everyone budgets are different. did you discuss your expectation for them to pay for the hire in advance? If not, I can see why it may have been a shock to them. I personally would let them wear what they want and stick to the groomsmen only wearing the same suits, this will also help to differentiate them as being part of the wedding party. You probably need to discuss with them all and see who is OK with it and then decide from there as I guess it is all or nothing. If they are really not able to pay then i would scrap the idea for your brothers, whilst you have a nice picture idea it is not worth the stress and fall out.

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    Expert July 2023 Cornwall
    Anonbride ·
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    Typically if you're asking someone to wear a certain outfit wedding etiquette says that you should pay this cost for everyone - not just someone who's 'skint' - so that might be why you're not getting a great reception to the idea.

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  • PhotographybyBillHaddon
    VIP January 3000 Leicestershire
    PhotographybyBillHaddon ·
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    If my math is correct then there will be 10 guys for the photo. 6 bro's 2 best men 1 dad and the groom.

    I would stick to just the 4 in the suits and not the brothers as well. A shot of the 10 guy's is a tricky one to get right if you want to see everyone clearly then at a basic level the photographer needs to move back but then they become smaller in the image and you cannot see the suits as well.

    So I might arrange them on some steps - if you have them, or use a bench but to get a nice shot of 10 can be challenging. Yes 10-20 in a standard "boring" family group is fine but when it comes to the lads and the bridesmaids you want to mix it up a little and get creative.

    And that is going to make it even more hard work when you have a shot of all the suits and add yourself and the bridesmaids. Even just rounding everyone up for the shot could take time even for the most experienced wedding photographer.

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    Genius July 2020 Monmouthshire
    RomanticGreenStationery27135 ·
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    I agree with Chloe - if you are expecting people to wear something specific to your wedding, then you need to pay for it. It doesn't matter what their financial circumstances are.

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    Dedicated May 2024 Conwy
    Abi ·
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    I personally don’t think you can ask that many people to wear a specific suit if you aren’t paying. We will be paying for the best man and page boys suit, and also giving the FOG the option to wear the same suit if he wants to, however this would be up to him as it’s his money - in this case it’s a lot of people and I think you just let them wear what they want🙈
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  • Alice
    Beginner April 2025 Greater Manchester
    Alice ·
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    We're planning on doing the same thing however we are treating it like bridesmaid dresses and covering the costs of hire. Like others have said its tricky asking people to contribute financially just so things can look how you want them to. My stepdad and my fiancé's dad are paying for their own though
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  • Hannah
    Beginner January 2023 South East London
    Hannah ·
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    Hey guys thanks for the responses! I think because I have been a bridesmaid twice before and have never had my dress covered by the cost of the wedding party, I assumed it was the same! We don’t have a groomsmen, only a best man, which is why I thought this could be a nice alternative to get the guys looking scrubbed up. Thanks for your advice, one to think about ! xx
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