Hair

For menu wouldn't do it. Is a lot of stress on her as you have to be right on timings and although she loves doing it, is very different on the day.

Believe me, I have a similar situation with my SIL and my flowers. She did a floristry course in lockdown and is good at it, so I said yes, big mistake! Everytime I send her what I like she says she isn't confident she can do that style so sends me pics of things she can do, but I don't like!! I have spent 6 months stressing about it and have had to sit her down and say I don't think it will work. She got upset and we then did some practice runs together and we so have something now that I like, but if I am honest, is not exactly what I would have had, but I am happy with what we have come up witj so is ok.

Hair and make up is a huge part of your overall look so I personally would get an MUA in. You can explain to her that you want her to be part of the day and enjoy it as your MOH, and she will have other duties to do on the day, so thank her for the offer but decline politely

View quoted message I actually asked her when I first got engaged (that's actually the problem)
I said to her I really want you to do my hair and makeup and she does what I want perfectly.

Of course we will have enough time for all of us to get ready weather we get a professional or not...
I dont really know how to say I dont think it's a good idea especially as I asked

You just need to say that although you asked her, you hadn't really thought through the logistics at the time as you were so excited about planning, but now you have thought it through you would rather she doesn't have the additional pressies, it isn't that you don't trust her but is just more practical to have someone else do it so you can spend the morning together getting ready and really enjoy the moment together x

View quoted message That's perfect I'll definitely speak to her once I see her having to travel 340 mile so saving the money. X

Would your MOH be doing just your hair and make-up or other members of the bridal party? If she's potentially doing others then a compromise could be that you ask her to do yours but book someone to do your other party members?

View quoted message Just mine is what I asked so would that be okay? Just doing mine? Xx

View quoted message It’s totally okay, it’s your wedding. My thought was just a suggestion in case you were searching for a compromise. Best thing you can do is go with whatever will make you feel most comfortable on the day.

View quoted message Thank you my love xx

If she is happy to do it and you are happy for her to do it then I wouldn't over think it, just let her do it. She probably feels honoured that you trust her with it. I know I did when my best friend asked me to do her makeup for her wedding. It was a really special moment. My main memory of the morning getting ready with her. We both got emosh lol. I would just make sure there is clarity over who she is and isn't doing though (i.e. rest of the bridesmaids) which it sounds like have already.