Harry Styles/Caroline Flack saga

Alright calm down. My opinion is that they are doing nothing wrong. I did read your OP and know your opinion.

I dont know who either of them are! At 32 I can't imagine wanting to boff a 17 year old, and I definitely can't imagine wanting to settle down with one. As long as they're happy though it's all good. As others have said, if hes a pop star he's possibly a bit more mature for his age than your average 17 year old.

Legally, he wouldn't be able to have an after sex fag - that would put me off...

I thought smoking was 16? Did the age limit change? If so, when? Have I missed a big chunk of my life out?!?

Some people can be so ignornant and rude can't they.

I bet the people who have given you stick have relationships that are far from perfect. But that's ok so long as they are the same age ?

Changed to 18 earlier this year..

Yes it's been 18 for a few years now.

It's been a few years hasn't it? Or has my life whizzed past that fast??

The age to buy was a few years ago, the age to smoke was this year.

A boy in my son's form smokes and I looked the ages up online to show my son that he was breaking the law.

I'm not sure anyone is saying they are doing anything illegal. I would in no way attempt to legislate against it (nor would I say anything negative to friend in a similar situation). I simply know that I could never enter into a relationship wth a 17 year old boy at this stage in my life (granted, I am two years older than her).

Oh I didn't know that. Seems pretty stupid to change the law to buy but not to smoke ? Who thinks of these stupid things? Surely it should be one or the other.

I really couldn't give two hoots about which celebrity is shagging which, even less about their ages or age gaps.

But on the subject of age gaps, do any of you remember what teenage boys/men are like? They have energy, stamina and enthusiam, even if they don't have experience and technique. They're fun. Not long-term relationship material, but great for a fling. There is nothing wrong with that, if that's what both parties want.

I found myself flirting with a 19 year old student myself earlier this year (half my age), who has a thing for older women (his ideal is yummy-mummy types in their early-mid 30s). There are dozens of online forums dedicated to pumas/cougars and cubs - it's no longer taboo or even odd.

I don't want to do it ten times, for two mins at a time.

Agree with Alice above, if they were shifted forward 5-10 years, and he was 25, she 40, I find this far more palatable. But he's a child. He is legally allowed to consent to sex but he is not legally allowed to consent (independently) to marriage. This means that the state (and many of us) might recognise him as likely to be emotionally immature. Which means it's a physical thing? Which I don't get.

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It's been like that for alcohol forever - it's legal to drink it under 18 if you're at home, but you can't buy it until you're 18. I've no idea why they decided to do the same for smoking though.

Yes. Immature & spotty. ?

Hmm I suppose I never thought of that. Just seems like they're sending mixed messages to me. Although I don't think age limits would put any youngsters off, if they're going to do it they're going to do it aren't they.

I don't have an issue with it. I wouldn't see a normal 17 year old but this is Harry. Harry is filth, you can see it in his eyes. I definately would given the chance.

I am good friends with a 19 year old bloke and there's no way I would ever find him physically attractive, he is at that age where he isn't a boy and not a man either....

Yup!

Proof of this can be seen when Matt Cardle was named as X Factor winner last year. I do believe the 17 year old (who was 16 at the time) shouted in his ear "think of all the p*ssy you'll get now".

Definite filth...

I remember this!!!

I remember this. Niiice.

OK, point taken....

When I was 29 I went out with a guy who was 17 for a few months. He was a mutual friend of mine and his age wasn't an issue. He was quite mature for his age and we had a lot of laughs. I stopped seeing him as I didn't see a future, it was just a bit if fun but he took it badly. Everyone called me 'Milf' for ages after it!

My first reaction was "good luck to them" My 13 year old niece (who is obsessed with Harry) then pointed out to me "Auntie Jo, your gross, thats like you doing it with one of our Charlies mates"(her brother, and my god son)... I',m 32 and my god son is 17. I soon changed my mind and now find it a bit icky!

This!

I'm sorry but it just seem icky to me too. I am also 34 and the idea of sleeping with a teenager is a bit sickening to me, boys are still kids really at that age, I certainly wouldn't consider him to be a grown man.

I know it's double standards but when I was 18/19 I was sleeping with a guy who was in his mid 40s. It didn't bother me then and it doesn't bother me looking back as I was very mature and his equal in every way except for years.

I have never heard of either of these people or this story before now.

They're clearly not affecting my life so as long as they're breaking no laws let them lash at it.

That said, it wouldn't be me!

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When I was 16 I was working in the music business and had a boyfriend who was 24 and then dated someone who was 28. Looking back I think they were seedy and a bit wrong because I was so young and green (but I think it was the two specific men in question who were seedy although what they thought they had in common with a 16 year old who knows!!) Boys my own age didn't interest me in the slightest though.

I think girls tend to be more mature than boys (well we know that) so it isn't unusual to see a younger girl with an older man because they can be on the same level maturity wise.

But an older woman with a much younger boy - what on earth do you talk about?? I wouldn't know where to start! Yes Harry is cute but it's just that. There is no future in it and I think it's weird that she would even WANT a boy of 17!

Looks like Harry has found himself a new friend. ?

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-2101595/Nick-Grimshaw-parties-Harry-Styles-comforting-Caroline-Flack-split.html

Alexa Chung looks rough