My partner and I got engaged last August, due to Covid and lockdown I thought it would be great to start planning the wedding, have something to look forward too. Originally we wanted to hire a villa and hold a small wedding, just close family (adults only), in Italy. We stupidly called to ask who would be up for that and even offered to pay for the accommodation.
To our surprise we were immediately confronted with the following:
Why don't you just elope and have a party when you get back
It shouldn't be up to you to dictate if we can bring our children regardless of where it is in the world
We may not come if it is abroad however, if you do it in the UK we will
Can you work this around the school holidays for both Scotland and England as we cannot take our children out if you permit them to come.
The list went on and on. We then changed it to a small wedding in Devon to accommodate everyone. Still sticking to adults only as our budget just wouldn't permit a large wedding and everyone has 2+ children in both of our families. This again brought up issues more so for Scottish relatives. We then decided to look at Scotland - we found a wonderful venue whereby everyone could come including children, within our budget etc, we decided to do it just before a bank holiday so it would mean everyone could have a long weekend. Turns out that this was not great as it was a family members birthday the same week, not the same day, it fell at the start of the week! Then the venue cancelled. My partners family have taken this out on me, all sorts of horrible things have come up, which I didn't ever think they thought. For an example: I am an outside who is taking their son away.
We haven't dared mention a wedding since as its literally been exhausting! My partner and I discussed just going to a registry office on the coast with just a handful of people. Today I went to mention this to my sister and got 'I don't want to hear about it until you book somewhere as it keeps changing.' - I totally understand it has changed, but we changed it to accommodate people. I wish people could just be supportive. I now feel down again and I am not even sure we should get married now. I love my partner but it appears no one is supportive. Has anyone else experienced something similar?