Having a baby before wedding

You'll need to decide which is most important to you and stick with that - having the baby asap or having the big wedding.

Some babies are a dream from day one, sleeping well, feeding well, happy to go anywhere...others are less easy! And there are no guarantees as to what your baby would be like, or how you would be feeling after the birth.

I think that trying to combine two such major life events within such a limited time frame, and with such a list of expectations for immediately after the birth is going to be very stressful for you and unlikely to work well.

We're in the exact same situation, it's like I've written your post myself! We're due to marry in September and were planning on starting a family straight after. The wedding isn't cancelled yet but we're fairly certain it will be, and our only option from the venue without incurring a charge is to postpone to the same time next year, which of course would put our entire life plans up in the air! I'm 30 and my partner is 36 and I'm really aware that time is ticking on and we're so ready now.

We're like you and are now considering trying to conceive before next September but would only give us a very small window! I'm the same I don't want to be pregnant at my wedding or have a tiny baby only a few weeks old!

Seems this situation is really messing up peoples life plans so I can feel your pain and totally appreciate your predicament. The way I'm trying to look at it is even if I end up 8 months pregnant on my wedding day or with a new baby on the day, or if I get pregnant now and our wedding can go ahead in a few months, because they're both such happy occasions there won't be any regret whatsoever even if it's not an ideal situation, and it may not be how we'd planned it but then nothing is going to plan at the moment. It's certainly one to look back on and you'll be able to explain to your children when they're older what you went through to bring them into the world!

Good luck whatever happens and interested to hear any advice xx

Wishing you all the best on this exciting path you're on! 💕

I was pregnant and didn't know it when we booked our venue. Baby is due boxing day and August 24 is our wedding day so baby will be 7 ish months. Not how I envisioned but I wouldn't change it as both kids will be at the wedding. Like others have said you have to decide what's more important. Also being pregnant is hard and planning a wedding is a lot- all my pregnancies have been awful hence why I've made sure all rhe big wedding stuff is booked now. You wanna enjoy your pregnancy without added pressure it really does go by faster than you think.