Help! I forgot to confirm the provisional booking of the registrar

Fingers crossed it's all ok, although it wouldn't be down to the registrar to contact you so they may have taken your not confirming your booking as you no longer needing or wanting that date & time. Unfortunately, that's the way places work. Hope you manage to get it all sorted out!!

Hi Annaks

Saw your message and I'm in the same position. Live in London but getting married in Oxford (where I grew up) in May.

We went to out local registrar and got our intention to marry sorted and were told by our local registrar that Oxford can see the conifmration on their system and not to worry about sending the paper copy through straightaway. My fiance spoke to the Oxford office and they said the same thing again. This was back in July/ August I think and haven't heard anything from them. Surely they'd get in touch before cancelling a provisional booking? Hope so

I have started to worry a bit that maybe we haven't got our booking confirmed either so will be sending mine in anayway ASAP. Be interested to hear what they say to you on Monday!

Good luck

Try not to panic, as you say there's nothing that you can do until Monday.

If the worst happens there are always other options, , , , Chin up and try to chill until Monday, , , ,

xx

Hi,

Sorry to hear that you are in a panic.

I think you'll be ok though....i provisionally booked a registrar for my Church Wedding (non CofE). They said they would contact me for the payment and to confirm the booking. 3 months later (last week!) i found out that my church had an official registrar and i didnt need to hire one from the local council so i then had to cancel the one i provisonally booked and despite not paying a deposit or calling back to confirm the booking in 3 months, they still had my slot booked! i think they would have contacted you if they had to release your booking.

I say call on Monday, but i'm sure that everything will be fine!

x

Thanks to everyone for their words of reassurance. Fingers crossed everything will be okay when I ring first thing on Monday. MrsB2B2805 - now that you said about Oxford being able to see the notice on their system, that rings a bell with me. We registered at Fulham Town Hall - how about you?

I booked the registra exactly a year before the date I wanted and then did nothing for ages. Thats not strictly true I did lots just nothing to do with them. I too suddenly panicked and realised that they had no idea that we were still getting married (we too are getting married in a different area from where we live). I phoned them up in a bit of a panic only to be told not to worry I was still pencilled in and once we gave notice this provisional booking would turn into a def one. Don't worry am sure it will be fine.

I would try not too worry too much. When we gave notice we were told that if we were giving notice at the same time as each other and in the same district that all our information would automatically be passed on and that we didn't need to do anything else until our payment was due. I think it is only if you live in different districts and therefore have to give notice in two different places that you are responsible for passing the notices on. Call them monday to be sure but I am sure all is fine

Turned out that I needn't have been in panic in the end! My booking was confirmed as soon as we gave notice in London, as the Oxford Registry was notified automatically. I do need to send them the certificates though.

I actually had a letter of confirmation from them which came through after I had given them notice but this only occurred to me once I'd been in a panic for a day. I felt like such an idiot.

I'm not a forgetful person and I thought I was being really organised, but I'm now going to do a timetable of when I need to do everything and by when.

Thanks for all the reassuring messages - they were much appreciated. ?

XX

Glad it is all ok. x