Help! Maid of Honour being a DIVA!

Won't the big white dress do this?

I think you're being a bit dramatic to be honest. To call her a diva after one shopping trip is a bit excessive. Maybe she was having a bad day?

Does it really matter if she wears some dangly earrings?

I appreciate what your saying because it was that one day, however nope my dress isn't typically massive. She too has a really glam dress because I wanted her to look great - I just thought if that's my main impact surely she should respect that?

You are the bride, everyone will be looking at you no-one will go oh look at the MOH she has big earings - you will be centre of attention you will make the big impact - unless she walks out butt naked,then maybe she will get more attention ?

IMO you are being bridezilla about this.

Your main impact? You're the bride.

Trust me, literally no one is going to notice your bridesmaid's earrings.

I think you are totally right - it's your day and bridesmaid should wear as you say! No argument!

Agree!! Your BMs are there to support you and I know they're only earrings but i'd be peeved if 1 of my BMs threw a hissy & expected me to change mine cos she wanted to wear them...! I was BM to my best friend in March & was so thrilled that she wanted me walking behind her down the aisle, i wouldve worn a bin bag with holes in if she had asked me to!

What Kharv said. It doesn't matter how understated your dress or look is, you'll be the one that everyone is focused on on the day. I don't think you're being a bridezilla but I think maybe a little sensitive. At my friend's wedding all the bridesmaids had different hairdos, depending on what flattered their face shape but nobody took a blind bit of notice about them not matching (and even one of them having a similar 'do to the bride) so I honestly wouldn't worry. This is a really small detail in the grand scheme of things - don't let it come between your friendship.

I hate to say it but you may have created your own MOH Diva. By all means give your bridesmaids a choice but if that choice means you end up worried they're going to upstage you then pull the Bride card and put your foot down. Just tell her she has a killer dress but you'd like her accessories to be understated and elegant.

If she doesn't back down then I'm afraid she isn't much of a friend.

Mwahaha this is why I am giving the bridesmaid gifts of jewellery to wear on the morning! done deal!

I think that if it's that much of an issue for you just pick for her and not let her have a choice... it is harsh, but if she is really just being a pain about it then you'll have to... I am having to do this, hve a few ideas of dresses from my BM and they all say "oh i can't wear this" or " I look terrible in strapless". It's about you, not them... but tbh No-one will even care what jewellery they are wearing!

Whilst I do think that as a bridesmaid she should go along with what you like, because yes you are the bride and it's your wedding, I also agree that no one is really going to notice what earrings she's wearing and in the grand scheme of things it really doesn't matter.

Me too! The only thing I am doing is asking them what sort of dress they will be comfortable with – strapless/long/short and find a compromise. I know some girls can’t/won’t wear strapless for example and I don’t want to make them feel uncomfortable on my big day.

But to be honest if I were a BM and if you had already said you wanted a certain look for yourself, AND the other BM’s happy with the earrings, I wouldn’t make a fuss unless the earrings you were choosing were bright pink with loads of blings or something.

She doesn’t sound like a team player. Maybe she has other issues that has not been discussed? I know my sister is a wet blanked about the wedding but that’s because she’s recently divorced and unhappy. Not the right frame of mind to be excited about her sisters wedding but I try not to take it to heart.

Try to have a chat with her and hopefully she will get it.

It's your wedding, youre buying this stuff, your bridesmaids get what they're given. it's tough if it's not exactly what they want, it's your day, it's all about what YOU want. So be more assertive and stop giving them choices. When they get married they can do the same to you, that's just how it works. She should be grateful you've got good taste and aren't dressing her in some hideous creation!

Im also doing this, have brought there hair pieces and shoes also, leaving nothing to chance!!

I honestly cannot remember what Bridesmaids have worn as jewellery at friends' weddings.

I'm not going for matchy matchy, so I am really relaxed about anything like this and kind of fail to see the problem.

People will notice you for being you, and if they notice a pair of earrings on someone else, is that the worst thing? Like one of the other ladies said, don't let a pair of earrings come between a friendship.