Hello,
A bit of background to my situation: my mother left when I was 13 and I do not have a relationship with her, I am very close with my auntie who in my eyes is my mother.
I am from Essex and have always wanted to get married there, however my MIL explained that it is cheaper where we live (Yorkshire) it upset me that my fiancé agreed with her but eventually I compromised so my fiancé and I went to see a wedding venue and told her about it after, she cried and said she wanted to be involved, she didn’t want to interfere but just wanted to be kept in the loop and explained how she felt sorry for me as I “don’t have a mum” bullshit!!!!!!!!!! She asked to go and see the venue and even though my fiancé didn’t see why she needed to see it, he took her anyway.
She is now continually questioning us about the wedding and trying to control everything, from organising meetings with photographers and suggesting cakes that she likes, she now wants to be involved with my wedding dress. Point blank, I do not want her there, I want to go shopping with my auntie and 2 best friends. Yesterday my MIL told me that we are going wedding shopping in April when my fiancé and his dad are away, she told me to ask my bridesmaids if they would be willing to come. I have messaged my bridesmaids on the quiet and told them that I will not be looking for my dress we will be looking for theirs, even though we all agree as I am getting married summer 21 this is far too early.
my questions are:
1. How do I politely tell my MIL and her daughter (one of my bridesmaids) that it is too early to go bridesmaid shopping yet?
2. How do I politely tell my MIL and her daughter that I want to go shopping for my dress with my auntie in my hometown and not where I live now?
I currently feel like all I’m doing is try to please her when in reality I’m making myself miserable
Thank you in advance