Hello all! I'm going you can advise.
Our wedding is set for March 2020 but I'm already having sleepless nights about my grandma (mum's side) Long story short, my parents are divorced and my maternal grandma has a deeply rooted vendetta against my dad. My dad has a new fiancé (this is absolutely fine with everyone else in my family) however, despite having never met my dad's fiancé, my grandma refers to her as a 'trollop' and other such nasty words. I KNOW my dad won't say anything to my grandma to cause a scene at the wedding, but I KNOW my grandma will have no problem marching up to my dad and his partner and screaming at them. I've spoken to my grandma about it, and she said 'oh I won't cause a scene, I'll just politely ask how him and his little Trollope are' and she laughed. I know she will do this. I am absolutely certain. She will not listen to anything anyone has to say about it. What do I do?
Secondly, when I was about seven, my grandma won this hideous cheap China doll dressed as a bride in a raffle. I've never liked it. It's about 2 foot tall with dark brown ringlet curls (my hair is ginger and wavy so it doesn't even look anything like me). But since she got it, she's gone on and on about having it standing next to my cake at my wedding. Now I'm engaged, she won't stop talking about it. I've tried to gently say that it won't really go with the venue or the theme, and even that it doesn't look like me, but she refuses to listen. I know it's silly but I will be deeply upset and embarrassed if I have to have that thing standing next to my cake.
Advice please? I'm worried sick!
