Hen do

I’m not having a typical hen do because that’s just not very me. We’re going to go ape (high ropes) for a bit of adventure first, then to a pottery painting place for some arts and crafts, then we’ll go out for drinks/meal.


It’s a relatively small group (I don’t have a big group of friends either) half of whom are family/future family. But those are the people who matter to me, so those are the people invited!

I am doing an overnight stay at a spa hotel with about 18 of us. I have separate friends from uni and from when I had my children (fellow school mums) but I'm doing it in April and the wedding is in July so quite a long time before the big day. I did that as I wanted something to look forward to before the big day and to spread out the fun. I didn't want a big night out so we will just have a nice dinner included at the hotel and a couple of spa treatments. As I have said in another post about hen do's I think it is more important to spend time with those who are important to you than go on some massive expensive holiday or big night out.

Well I wish you the best

I'm having a small group hen too. To be honest, I've put all of this on my MOH! Not in a bad way, but because I feel like he can coordinate with the bridesmaids/others invited and ask them when would be convenient and how much they're willing to spend (which would then dictate where we might go). It's far easier for people to say they can't do something/don't want to spend that if it's the MOH asking rather than The Bride and ultimately I want everyone to find it fun rather than stressful as I think that'll make it more fun for me too! I've just said a few things that I really wouldn't want, and the kind of vibe I'd like, and letting them surprise me with what and when works from them - if that's close to the wedding then great, but equally if it's a year away because the hens preferred to spread out the cost/holiday days by leaving a bigger gap between the hen and the wedding then that's just as great!

If you want one, you should do it.
I decided against a proper hen for similar reasons - I don't have a large number of friends (and they all live far apart and don't really know one another). I worried that everyone would shell out a load of money for something they might not enjoy. In the end I decided to just go on a spa weekend with my mum, and then just dropped a message to my family telling them I am not having a hen, but if they wanted to treat themselves to a spa day/weekend, they were welcome to join. Might sound a bit dull, but it took away any stress I had about it.

I'm getting married 29th October this year and my hen do is booked for the end of August Bank holiday. I'm not involved in any of the planning, I just know it's abroad and it's Friday - Monday. I told my maid of honour who I wanted to invite, sorted out the date (this was an arse ache, I had to decide who my "most important people" were and work around them.) I then had to ask around everyone privately and individually about the budget to come to a decision of something everyone could afford.
I hope this helps! Also, initially I wanted to have my hen do in September because it would have been cheaper, but one person I desperately wanted there couldn't come on one date, so I moved it. A few people moaned because it would be more expensive in August but I just explained why to them and they soon piped down.

All of thats forgotten now and everyone is just mega excited! Our flights are booked and I've no idea what the plan is! 😂