Hen do drama - help

They sound like awful friends and bitches, you must be do upset 🥲 what should have been a wonderful time for you was instead a very hurtful experience. They need to apologise though from what you have said it doesn’t sound like they will , you don’t need people like that in your life. Your other bridesmaid sounds like a good friend. Please don’t let them spoil your wedding day , I know it’s hard but unless they apologise you need to cut them from your life and concentrate on the people who matter xx

View quoted message Thanks Marcie, I really appreciate you getting back to me. I feel like I just needed the opinion of someone who wasn’t there.


The rest of the girls there made sure I had a wonderful time and I made some lovely memories with them.
I just feel so disappointed by the whole thing as even my other friends felt uncomfortable around them and one friend said they didn’t even bother to say hello to her.
The girl who is also getting married went ahead of me to the place we were staying and took a double bed to herself leaving my other bridesmaid without a bed for the night. They also left in the morning without saying bye to me or anyone. I’m just in complete shock but you’re right I just need to have those around me that care
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View quoted message They should have been making you feel special not shit 🥲 I’m glad your other friends were lovely and tried to make it special for you. I wonder if there is some jealousy involved and they didn’t like all the attention on you. As I said before please don’t let them ruin your special day xx

View quoted message Thanks again for letting me vent.


I hope your wedding plans are coming along nicely xx

This is something that happens to a lot of girls it's purely because your girls... I can't give you much advise to get them to come to you wedding but one not of advise I can give you is get new friends not backstabbing b****es

View quoted message Hahah! Thanks Hayley, just glad it’s not just me this has happened to. Really appreciate you making me feel better about the situation xx

View quoted message Your welcome just keep your head up and enjoy your special day x

I’m so sorry this happened to you.


I can’t add much to what the others have said but agree, tell them they are no longer welcome at your wedding, particularly the bridesmaid!
You clearly have caring and supporting friends in your life and don’t need toxic people.
Best of luck with your wedding

View quoted message Thanks Sarah! You have no idea how appreciative I am for you all to message and let me know I’m not overreacting.


I hope you all have the best wedding day ever! X

I’m so sorry this happened, sometimes the break-up is the blessing.


This is your hen do, a gathering of your dearest friends. How disrespectful that someone could start a ‘click’ at your do. I’m all for down time but if she made the whole day about herself then she honestly wasn’t there for you and doesn’t respect you. For one of your bridesmaids to join in....no sorry, not on.
They are not worth the money you are about to pay on their dinner and drinks.
I would calmly sit them down, explain in a mature way that what they did was unacceptable and not to be tolerated. Clearly they don’t hold the same respect as you do for them therefore please don’t come to the wedding, then Walk out tall and proud!!
Your other friends who were there for you and made sure you had fun are the people you should spend your energy on.....not the selfish, self-entitled silly girls.
Hope you have the best day surrounded by people that love and support you in your journey! Xxx

Wow what horrible people. I can only echo previous comments that they clearly are uncaring, unkind and you deserve so much more! I know you’ll be feeling upset about it still but some people are not worth it. Focus on the friends who tried to make it a good weekend for you.
For the other girl to even consider asking someone to be her bridesmaid at your hen party is not on!

I had a friend who was a maid of honour to a wedding where the bride “fired” (is that a thing?” The other BMs for being rude and behaving similarly. Honestly, you are better off being supported by people who care - also I am open to the idea that the day is YOURS so you can adjust according to what works best for you.


You should be thrilled and excited not having people drag you down. You do not deserve that x

How’re you feeling now ? Hope you’re doing ok x