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Curious May 2021 Kent

Hen do regrets - too sensitive

Ellie, 28 April, 2021 at 23:13 Posted on Planning 0 6
Hi everyone! I hope your wedding planning is going well. We are getting married end of May and so we are only allowed 30 people and I had to uninvite a few friends to the wedding although they were never formally invited we spoke about it. I was not sure at all if I even wanted a hen do at first because I didn’t want to feel rejected if someone said no but I decided to in the end because I might regret it in future. Out of the 14 invites only 7 could come and I feel totally upset and rejected. Two of my closest friend couldn’t make that dates and the others had really weak reasons. I know not everyone likes these occasions and I suppose if they can’t come to the wedding they may not see the point but I feel like it’s not my fault the pandemic happened and we couldn’t afford to move it. I’m just feeling like I should never have said to do it because I’ve set myself up for feeling awful they said no. Just needed to get this off my chest without sounding like a petulant child to my family. It’s more in insecurities getting the better of me I think. Did anyone have similar experience and still have a great time without close friends there?


P.S those that said yes I will thank for the rest of my life Smiley smile true friends right there x

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Latest activity by Ben, 7 May, 2021 at 11:49
  • Louise
    Rockstar March 2022 Devon
    Louise ·
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    Hello there, I too am not sure about having a hen do though for different reasons. I have 3 different groups of girlies and they all live quite far from each other (my main and most long standing group being the furthest of course!). Money is also an issue as is work and children, trying to get all of us free for the wedding is one thing but to achieve it a second time prior for a hen do, I would expect not everyone to be able to make it really. Also it sounds like you chose the date for it in what you said, in my opinion a hen do is more of an agreed date between you all for when most/all of you can make it to save disappointment. I wouldn't get too disheartened, life at the moment isn't normal, maybe enquire (if it's not too late) if the date was different could more of them make it? I hope it's a great night/weekend regardless!
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    Curious May 2021 Kent
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    As I’m sorry to hear you’re having a few issues too. I’m very much the same and all my friends are from different groups. I think I’m totally over thinking it and covid hasn’t helped as some won’t go for that reason. This was the second date offered as the first one has even less people attend but I agree maybe the date situation could have been handled differently - it is unfortunately too late now. Thank you for your message back - I really hope you have a lovely time too!
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    Genius July 2020 Monmouthshire
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    There are always going to be people who can't make an event - I wouldn't focus on the 7 who can't come, but on the 7 who can!

    And reasons that seem weak to you may be very strong to them - or they may not be giving the real reason (e.g. scared of Covid, can't afford it) and trying to come up with another excuse instead.

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    Curious December 2021 Oxfordshire
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    Aw try not to feel too disheartened.



    Good for you for having for a hen do though!

    As the above poster said, just think about the 7 who are able to make it! A nice, small group of girls who will have a fab weekend. There’s all sorts of stuff going on in people’s lives at the moment, so try not to worry too much about those who aren’t coming, it’s just one of those things.

    Have you got an idea where you’d like to go?!
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    Curious May 2021 Kent
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    Thank you 😊 Very out of my comfort zone so that’s probably why I’m being extra sensitive and with covid messing up a lot of our plans I’m on edge more than usual.


    You’re absolutely right so thank you - I will make sure I have a fab weekend! We’ve decided on a night out and hotel stay in London as it’s nearest everyone!
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    Curious May 2021 Kent
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    Thank you x
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