Hen do - who to invite?!

I think it should be totally up to you! If you're having a small do then that's the perfect excuse to give them so they don't feel offended, just say it's a low key thing with just your family/closest friends.

If your partner has lots of female friends they could always attend the stag? I know it's not traditional but my fiancé is having two groomsmen and two groomswomen and they'll be attending his stag - were mixing it up a bit! Although to be honest I don't think his stag will be a totally traditional "lads" one anyway!

I would say invite who you want, others will understand or get over it, and they get to see you at th wedding anyway!

I agree with FurtureMrsT,
It's your hen do.
If his female friends are that close, why not have him invite them to his stag instead? - just a suggestion.

I'm only having 6/7 people at mine, just people I know well who if I make a plonker of myself in front of I know it'll be OK :-) No one can assume they are invited, it's entirely up to you. :-)

On my hen do there was

Me

My mum

My MIL

2 aunties

2 friends from work

3 friends from outside of work

Another aunty and her friend (who had t shirts printed telling the world they had gatecrashed my hen do) ??

Ooh and my florist came later on. (Shes a friend of a friend)

You should invite people who you want to be there. A hen do is basically a good excuse to do something you really want to do and enjoy yourself. If you want to get drunk and potentially be very daft while being drunk you would want to do that in front of your friends wouldn't you? The same with a spa session, would you want (excuse the term) random women looking at you and being with you semi naked when you don't know them very well? I think we all tend to relax more with the people we know and trust too, you want to relax and have a good time in whatever you do.

I am having a split hen do I think, I want to go and have lots of drinkies and a spa session, but my mum doesn't. So for her we will either have a lovely meal somewhere with the two of us, or have her, me, FMIL, bridesmaids and best man's girlfriend (she is lovely) for a nice meal somewhere special. My mum is helping out so much I want to include her so it's the least I can do to make sure it's something she wants ?

You are not wrong at all. Don't invite them if you don't feel like they are your friend too. Have you hung out with them without your partner? If not, I don't see why you should start with a hen-do.

Im having this issue ive been told that i need to invite all the women from my partners side (theres about 18) i was only going to invite a small handful its causing a proper rift between everyone and i havent wanted a hen from the start and all this agro is making me not want one more xx

I’m having 3 hen dos, one for my best friends and sisters, one for all my friends and one with my sisters , my mum and my daughters. Just found it easier to do separate things.