Hen night blues

Oh hun, didn't want to read and run.

Mine was this weekend and I was feeling exactly the same as you. I had no idea what was going on and nearly didn't go.

Think of quality over quantity. The people that are coming are the ones who will make the night for you. Have they not told you because they aren't sure you're meant to know who was invited? I know you gave your best friends a list but they might not have said that you knew who was being invited.

I don't think you're being a bridezilla. It's a big night for a bride to be and we all have visions of how it'll turn out. Is there any way your friends who have the competition the next day could maybe join you earlier in the day?

This. I decided to just have me and my two bridesmaids, no one else really matters! I hope you have a great time and all your worries melt away on the day x

Oh love, that sucks. Are you sure that they're not just misleading you and trying to throw you off the scent? Those people might be coming after all and it's all a ruse to stop you guessing anything?

If that isn't the case, and they're not coming, well then better off that way. Sounds like they'd be terribly boring and ruin your night, so you don't want people like that there. The ones who are coming will make sure you have a wonderful night and enjoy yourself to the maximum!

Oh Bekki - I don't like to see you sad, you are one of the loveliest hitchers!!

I had similar gripes and moans with mine. The only thing I could do was just shut out all the worry noise in my head and look forward to some nice surprises. You saw how that turned out!

In life, I'm sure you know this already, some people will make you feel sad and down, other people will make you feel amazing ... you just have to choose which ones to focus on.

Chin up Bek love ... nearly your wedding day ?

Thank you so much ladies! I will try and remember that quality of friendship is what matters, and not quantity.

To answer a couple of things, they did know that I knew they were invited and had all expressed excitement about coming.

The hen is, so I'm told, in sections so the option is there to attend parts if wanted.

I'm pretty certain they aren't misleading me as the person who can't keep her mouth shut didn't tell me directly, but spoke loudly within my hearing.

SW, you nearly made me cry there!!! And you reminded me that things can turn out to be amazing, even when you think they will be a disaster so thank you xxx

Late to this, but didn't want to read and run. I echo SW.

? Here's to a fabulous hen!

Aaw - hugs hun. FWIW, I think too big and you don't see everyone anyway and people can splinter off into groups, a smaller number of people you are closer to can be much better and far more meaningful. Either way it is soon your wedding and that's what matters. Enjoy your party with the ones who really matter because in life, while it's nice to have lots of friends etc, in reality it's a far fewer number that really matter. x

If it helps, for many reasons I think my hen will be just my daughter and me!

Isn't it crap when people you think are friends make excuses and let you down? I've had that before and its not nice. Could this be an excuse to have a second hen night? One that they can all go to? Make it with an activity that you need deposits for, that way they need to commit money and can't back out as easily.

oh no. Nuh uh sistah! They missed their chance to be on your hen do. Missed it. Fools.

No way. If they can't be bothered with the first one, chances are they wouldn't with the second. Anyway, the hen night is 9 days before the wedding so no time! And my finances are severely stretched now, I can't afford two hens lol

^^ this!^^ sorry am a bit late to this one but just wanted to say, try not to worry about it, the ones who are there will make it a great night, and am sure some of the others have genuine reasons. I had 5 drop out of mine, 3 of which were oh's sister, sil and mother! so just meant it was my friends and family which worked out well. 2 of my best girls, who are the party goers of the group went home straight from the meal which really upset me as they were all about the "we're going to have a great night, lots of dancing and partying, and this is the only one you'll ever have etc etc " so when they left i felt myself getting teary and another close friend snapped me out of quickly by pointing out everyone else who had stayed for me!

I was still miffed the next day when the closest of the 2 friends had said she'd left because of money - but has then asked if i will go on her leaving do's with her (yes she is having 2!) from the company i left 18 months ago, but you know it actually didn't ruin my night, i still danced it away with my blow up doll (don't ask lol!) did the awful dares and had a fab time!!

xx