I am having a small civil ceremony with little planning time because a) we need legalities sorted quickly and b) we will bave a party for everyone next year. So this one is just the paperwork. However to mark the day we asked family and a very small number of friends to attend for lunch and a few drinks. Though I'd said I didn't want a hen party my sister and friend planned one for next week. I just found out yesterday and have to tell them i cant because a) we are moving into our new place that weekend b) im so SO busy with work and life right now and c) i dont want one until im stress free and can have all my friends there. My sister is fine as she just wants me to be happy, but my friend is annoyed. Ive thanked and apologised as much as i can but she is still angry. Am i being unreasonable?