Hen Party - Very Small Wedding

I also had a small wedding and there were a couple of people I'd have liked to have had on the hen do who weren't invited to the wedding. I decided in the end it was a bit tight to invite people to the hen do who weren't invited to the actual wedding.

I've been to a hen night out and not been invited to the wedding. I wasn't offended, I knew my friend was only having a small wedding with literally only family and really close friends. IMO if they're good enough friends they'd understand.

Now neither of you have made it any easier on me by saying completely opposite things aha!

One of them I can easily talk to about wanting a night out with my friends as a hen do despite the small wedding but the other not so much. She's known from the get go that it'll be small nearly only family, but she's still so excited and asking loads of questions. I'm trying my hardest not to talk about it in front of/with her! I may just end up inviting her anyway.

Hello. I currently live 4 hours away from my home town and am only having a tiny wedding (4 guests and a newborn) where I live now so I did not see the point in having a hen party. However my manager asked when I was having one when we were sorting out my holiday requests and has basically insisted on it!! So now I have a hen party with the girls from work to look forward to They know they cannot come to the wedding but they are still asking questions and are excited for me.

Id only invite people on my hen do, if they were invited to either the day or evening of the wedding x

Haha sorry!

I think it comes down to your individual friendships, but I don't think you should miss out on a hen do just because you're having a small wedding I'd just make sure everyone knows where they stand re invites beforehand to avoid the possibility of anyone getting the wrong end of the stick (just in case!). I will be inviting some girls to my hen do even though they're only evening guests. They all know we're struggling to fit people in to the day as it is!