Honeymoon fund instead of gift list - rude?

This has me up no end!

I can't remember who said it but I dint think you can always relay on family to pay more towards gifts or honeymoon. We gave his cousins 20quid even though their close as that's all we could afford at the time.

I certainly could not afford 50! Just out of curiosity how much is your wedding breakfast per head?

Mind you I have no idea if I will out a guest list in prob won't as if I get anything I love the surprise of it all!

This has me up no end!

I can't remember who said it but I dint think you can always relay on family to pay more towards gifts or honeymoon. We gave his cousins 20quid even though their close as that's all we could afford at the time.

I certainly could not afford 50! Just out of curiosity how much is your wedding breakfast per head?

Mind you I have no idea if I will out a guest list in prob won't as if I get anything I love the surprise of it all!

This has me up no end!

I can't remember who said it but I dint think you can always relay on family to pay more towards gifts or honeymoon. We gave his cousins 20quid even though their close as that's all we could afford at the time.

I certainly could not afford 50! Just out of curiosity how much is your wedding breakfast per head?

Mind you I have no idea if I will out a guest list in prob won't as if I get anything I love the surprise of it all!

It has me questioning things too. Every time I decide on what to do I change my mind again. I know we definitely won't use a poem, though I'm not knocking anyone who does. It's interesting to note the difference between requests from close friends/ family, and those you don't know all that well. We recently had an invitation from someone who works with my oh. He works in another town though, and they've met maybe once? Anyway, when a poem about giving cash dropped out of the envelope first I have to admit I was a bit taken aback. We will be including some money in a card for them anyway though. If nothing was specified we'd probably have taken a card and a bottle of champagne. For a good friend we'd definitely take a special gift.

I'm not entirely sure what you mean.

To my knowledge I have never posted comments here which are clearly going to offend people.

Sadly dawn is ignorant to direct posts pugsley- you are wasting your time!

Hahaha

I'm not ignorant, I've just been around forums enough to avoid being pulled into other people's drama x

Finally!

'Other people's drama' that's an interesting choice of words for you isn't it?

what would I know though? I've never used a forum before clearly.

How have I missed yet more drama! Iv only been gone a couple of days! x

This is all your fault Slou, I distinctly remember you asking for more drama! ?

Omg your right !!!! X

We've asked for a contribution towards our honeymoon fund as we have everything we need and more (we both had our own houses before we met and now live with oh mother lol), we get married in May and won't be able to go away until october so we have more time to save for our perfect honeymoon, this is the poem we're putting in our invites -

Honeymoon Wish

We two lovebirds have it all…
Family, Friends and Love galore. 
If a gift you intend to help our nest, and need some help, may we take this opportunity to suggest?

We already have a kettle and a toaster,

Crockery, dinner mats and matching coasters

So rather than something we’ve already got

We would appreciate a

Contribution to our honeymoon pot.

Most important is your presence this day and night
 as our wedding without you just won't be right.

Might i add that everybody invited to the wedding are close family and friends and know our living arrangements and when ive been asked what we want i have said nothing, but most people want to give something. Even if they only gave us £5 we wouldn't be bothered we just want everybody there with us

This doesn't scan at all, the rhythm is all wrong and it's really awkward to read. What's wrong with just saying it in prose?

my gift list (which I haven't included in the invitations but is available to anyone who requests it) consists of a new ironing board, wine glasses, picture frames and general nik naks I'd like but can't justify buying at the moment. Our honeymoon is booked and paid for because I would dread getting to the morning after the wedding and finding I'd booked something I couldn't afford. The majority of our gifts are under £15 with the most expensive being £75 - that was only put on there for people who might want to club together (work colleagues/football team/aunt and cousins). If anyone suggested an amount to me they'd get a tesco value toaster paid for with my clubcard points and more than likely from the reject shelf because the box was dented.

my gift list (which I haven't included in the invitations but is available to anyone who requests it) consists of a new ironing board, wine glasses, picture frames and general nik naks I'd like but can't justify buying at the moment. Our honeymoon is booked and paid for because I would dread getting to the morning after the wedding and finding I'd booked something I couldn't afford. The majority of our gifts are under £15 with the most expensive being £75 - that was only put on there for people who might want to club together (work colleagues/football team/aunt and cousins). If anyone suggested an amount to me they'd get a tesco value toaster paid for with my clubcard points and more than likely from the reject shelf because the box was dented.

This is what we doing.

Maybe we are missing a trick by not rinsing our family and friends!! Better wake up Mr Erin who is snoozing next to me so l can let him know.

It is bad timing the Hitched Awards were last night…

Love it! I would do the same thing!

i would get a new plastic fantastic bin for them lol

This is the poem we used:

The most important gift to us is to have you share our day,
but should you wish to contribute in some other way,
then help us on our honeymoon in our chosen paradise,
a little extra spending money would be really nice.

There's a few sites that offer "honeyfund" - we used Flyustothemoon.com as it seemed better for UK couples.