Honeymoon fund instead of gift list - thoughts and suggestions

Hello,

We aren't having a massive wedding (45 family in the day) and we are not going to put anything about gifts in the invite.

If people want to get us something in particular then great, if not and they give us money then thats fine too (obviously!)

I am sure some people will ask me and the O/H or our parents 'what would you/they like' and then we will just say whatever you want to get us...!

All our guests know we have been living together for 4+yrs (5 by the time we are wed) so I don't think we will get any toasters....

We are doing exactly the same!

I asked my sister if she thought it was acceptable and she said the last wedding she went to asked for money for honeymoon so I've done exactly the same. There are loads of poems out there to ask for money (I find them a bit too cheesy for me but I can see how they can come across as less rude). Another thing lots of couples do if they have already planned their honeymoon or have an idea of what they want to do is set up a honeymoon gift registry with prices of different aspect people can buy/contribute towards. Things like flights, hotel room per night, hot air balloon ride, champagne reception etc etc.

Just include it in the invitation. instead of a registry, just change it to honeymoon fund. a lot of my friends did that as most of them have been living together for a long time before they got married. actually, i prefer receiving money as we can use the money to purchase stuff that we wanted, rather than receiving something that we would have to give away or stay under the cupboard until they are forgotten.

Our daughter opened a honeymoon fund with Trailfinders. They provided a folded leaflet that fits into most sized invitations explaining everything which eliminates the need for writing things specificially on the invites. Guests can either pay over the phone by card or pay into the fund by bank transfer/cheque. The come printed with the Bride and Groom's name on and the wedding date etc. You can also keep track of how much your fund grows on line too! Don't be too suprised though if people don't contribute until very near the wedding date as most people tend to leave things till the last minute!

I have been living with my future H for 2 and a half years and we live in a small 2 bed terrace house. We have no room for anything else to fit in the house and don't feel the need to upgrade what we have. I have always felt that if we did a traditional gift list it would be because people expect it and it wouldn't be things that we really want or really need. I would hate to ask people for things that will just sit in their boxes for years and not be used. As a result we are going to simply say to people that all we would like is for them to join us for our wedding but if they would like to give us a gift we would appreciate a contribution towards our honeymoon or our double glazing! We have a honeymoon gift list set up with Kuoni so we will put their insert in as well.
I have been to 6 weddings this year and I have given money to all bar 1 of them and I have no problem with this. I fully expect that we will get some gifts instead of money and that is fine with us but a traditional gift list just doesn't work for us.

I felt a little cheeky metioning gifts on the invites so I have added it to our wedding website instead. We're getting married quite far from where we live so everyone will have to pay for travel/hotels etc so we have said not to get us gifts due to the other costs they will have already incurred but also added that if they still felt the need then we would really appreciate 'donations' to our honeymoon fund.

Have also instructed the moms with the same message as people will still ask them what we want.

We asked for money towards a honeymoon as we'd been buying loads of house bits and bobs already. I know they aren't everybody's cup of tea, but we used a little poem saying that if people did want to get us a gift then money towards a honeymoon would be appreciated. All but one of our guests stuck to this and were really generous, and the one that didn't got us John Lewis vouchers instead, so we were really grateful that people did stick to it! xx

This is what we are doing. I don't think we are going to mention any money or anything like that in the actual invitations but there is a page on our web site where we have said something about not having a gift lift but if any guests feel they would like to get us something then they could contribute towards beginning our life together and Mr and Mrs... Obviouisly worded better than this though.

We have our list with Kuoni. I didnt like the inserts so have literally just inserted a small section with the link to Kuoni and some simple words. I think people expect it so it isnt rude.

xx

We set up a honeymoon fund for free on honeyfund.co.uk its really simple to do and means we can just give people the web link if they want to use it

I like the idea of a fund with Kuoni, Trailfinders etc rather than just asking for cash. I've been to a few weddings where the couple have asked for honeymoon money but no sign of them booking a honeymoon which makes me wonder if they just felt awkward about asking for cash for nothing in particular.

We can't afford to pay for a honeymoon ourselves so we can't risk booking it with the hope guests will be generous to pay it back. If people are in the same position they might have put the money they received away until they can save enough to make up the money needed for a honeymoon.

We've had to do this.

We asked for money for a honeymoon but due to a change in circumstance had to move house 5 days after our wedding, so the money had to unfortunately go towards that, with the hope now to save for a honeymoon next year xx

We can't afford the whole Honeymoon either but we decided to use the credit card for the remaining balance....Then anything we get on the Kuoni gift account we then get a cheque from Kuoni which we can pay the credit card off...

If we do end up short which im sure we will we'll just make sure we cover the credit card over the next two months when we're back...Just means we get our amazing Honeymoon still :-)

My OH's sisters mum paid for her Honeymoon an then collected all the wedding gift money as hers then the bride only owed around £300 to her mum.

x

Hello All

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We're going to do this. The company we're booking with don't currently offer anything that allows third parties to make payments for specific experiences etc, but I'm hoping when we meet with them in August we can set something up.