Hotel rooms

We get the bridal suite included, not paying for anyone else's room. I haven't been to a wedding where the rooms were paid for.

If you can afford to pay for rooms for your guests then it's a wonderful gesture. Not many people can though. Beyond that it comes down to what you can afford,what your guests are likely to be able to afford and those who might need/welcome a little help. Every wedding will be different though. As a rule of thumb, if you are expecting someone to be there because of a role they have, MoH/Best Man for example, then it's not unusual for the B&G to pay/subsidise their rooms. Other guests generally cover their own costs.

We're paying for rooms for our three boys who are at school or college/uni and my daughter who is single, lives in her own place and is on a fairly low income. We know everyone else can afford to pay especially with the amount of notice etc.

My OH's family are from London and we are getting married in Yorkshire so a huge number of his family are staying over the nght before nd the night of the wedding.

We arranged complimentary rooms for both sets of parents and the bridal suite for us was incuded in our package. We haven't offered to pay for any rooms, 1 because we can't afford it and 2 because we haven't specified people should stay over nor expect them to.

Should someone choose to stay over i dont see how they can expect their room to be paid for.......

We paid for accomodation at both his sisters weddings only the parents were free.

It's a tough one, say you book 20 rooms and the hotel is fully booked, you may have say 25+ people/ couples/ families who need rooms and someone's nose may be put out of joint if they end up having to pay for their own room at another hotel.

If I was going to do it, I'd only mention to family and close friends who are traveling or have children and wouldn't put it in invites as information.

My friend once got married in a youth hostel we had for a full weekend. She had subsidised the rooms so the guest who wanted could stay for £20. Other than that, I've never had a hotel room paid on my behalf. There are enough things for the couple to pay for, I'm happy to pay for accommodation and I'm sure most wedding guests would be too!

We did think about paying for rooms for MF's parents since we are getting married in my home village which they claim is in the middle of nowhere, but it would have snowballed to paying for all his family (15 rooms) so it's cheaper for us to bus them door to door (it's only an hour journey!)

Our hotel has held 40 rooms for us...

In our invitations we stated

"we have 40 rooms on hold with our venue, however these are on a first come first served basis, so if you want to wake up with us, please ensure you book quickly. However, for those of you who wish to stay over but a fed up of the chirpy bride and groom there are a number of other hotels we can recommend close to our venue"

We then provided the details of 3 other hotels/B&B's

That way the onsu is on them to book IF they want to.

If I could have plucked another couple of grand out of the air to pay for ALL of the rooms, I would have done so, as I feel incredibly awful that our guests are shelling out for hotels when none of them are exactly wealthy folk. It plays on my mind daily.

That being said, the bride and groom should never be 'expected' to pay for any rooms. That's ridiculous. Don't think like that.

The only thing you need to give a little thought to room-wise, is your parents and the rest of your wedding party. I personally think that BEFORE you ask someone to be a bridesmaid or groomsmen, you should either be confident that they can afford to stay in the hotel (if they need a room, I mean), or the couple should think about offering them a room gratis. It doesn't make sense to give them a role in the wedding (meaning that they are obliged to come to the wedding), without considering whether this will result in them taking out a payday loan at 2000% APR. Any other general guests of the wedding can decide not to attend if the hotel costs are a burden, but what is your Maid of Honour supposed to do? Pull out?

Again, if the parents are not in a position to pay for hotels, then consideration should be given to the location /venue choice BEFORE the wedding is booked, or a gratis hotel room offered to enable their attendance.

Thanks

So that is my parents and my siblings (and families as their daughters as BMs) I should pay for and just dont worry about others?

I just feel bad, we are getting married very very very local to SOs family which is in Ireland. Most of them will just get a taxi or drive back home after but I'm making my lot cross the Irish sea. (some from not that far others from the other side of London or up North and things)

I'm not sure if it is a 'real' thing or not, but our friends and us have always had a 'groomsman suit or hotel room' agreement. i.e. the bridal party/groomsmen choose, do they want the couple to pay for the suit or the hotel room, but not both. We have always gone for the suit part of it, and those in our weeding have all chosen suit too. I think it is because the suits are the choice of the bride and groom, and therefore more 'theirs', whereas the room is an extra that you do not have to take up.

With your case, it is very different - but equally, if people were in financial difficulties and could not come to your wedding, would you pay for their airfare? Personally, we see hotel costs as just part of being a guest. And staying in a hotel is always nice! We reserved rooms in a hotel for our guests, but half of our families are going to the Travel Lodge a few miles down the road because they want to pay less.

If you can magic the money up, and not forgo your dream day, then by all means, but if I was a guest and found out others had their rooms paid for them and I didn't, I think I would be rather peeved!

Thanks - does that mean it has to be all or nothing? so either BP and then no one or all guests, not like if we paid for family but not friends? that would be a no go?