I don't know whether to ask one of my friends as a bridesmaid and so would like some advice!
I feel a bit of a loser in that I don't have a "best friend" that I call about everything, but a few really close friends. It's the kind where we don't have to see/speak to each other every week but it's always the same when we do.
I selected my oldest two friends from back home (they live near Brighton and I live near Manchester now). We don't talk all the time but they are really close friends and I'm a bridesmaid for them too. I also asked my close friend who is up here. It's a bit weird in that I wasn't her bridesmaid a couple of years ago (she had her two high school friends and her sister) but I did her reading, was made to feel involved in the day (I was selected to get up for some entertainment thing) and went to her BBQ for close friends / family only the next day and even then stayed over after. I count her as a close friend, who I've known since childhood (before I then moved south before coming back up north for uni). I wanted someone close and nearby, but when asked I did feel a little like she was shocked. She has been good since and got involved with the hen party planning. I also asked my fiance's sister-in-law - I felt a bit obliged to as I was her bridesmaid - despite being a replacement, I was kind of told by his mum that I should. We got close in the lead up to her wedding but we haven't stayed as close.
I have a friend from university that I lived with and was very close to in my final year. Whenever she came back home we always meet up and we did text/call every so often but not all the time. She didn't call me in the crisis when she split with her boyfriend, but I went straight down to see her when I heard. I was invited to her sister's hen party (I think as one of her close friends and because I have got to know her family quite well through staying over) and I was so excited when she came back up. She has said drunkenly that she only has a few close friends like me where it's always like old times as soon as you see each other, even if it's been a while. We know each other's highs and lows and we always have such a laugh together when we meet up. She did seem to be like, so who are your bridesmaids when we did meet up last and I think (though am not certain) she sounded a bit down when it was apparent I'd asked some already.
Bottom line is, I would love her to be there on the day. She'll be enthusiastic, fun and make the whole morning really positive and we'll be friends for years to come. However, it's one of those situations where I'm not 100% sure if she will be really happy or be thinking I wouldn't ask you to be mine. If she wasn't a bridesmaid she would definitely be my first choice for a reading. However, when I was a bridesmaid at my friend's, she had her six bridesmaids around the night before and the whole night and morning together was such a lovely experience, it made me realise I would love my friend there.
BUT...I don't want to look like a loser!!
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
