I get married in April 2022 and I've just had a sudden realisation that hen do planning should commence soon.
I only have 1 bridesmaid who is my sister, 3 years younger who I am very close too. She has high functioning autism and anxiety, she does not deal well in social situations, especially drinking outside our family or her circle of friends. I have excused her from the hen do as I would never want her to feel uncomfortable and we are planning on doing something just the 2 of us.
Now here is my dilemma, I have a group of 6-9 close female friends I have had since school and I see them as my unofficial bridesmaids. I couldn't afford to have them all as bridesmaids but couldn't pick just a few. They were all totally cool with that and just happy for us. This group would be the bulk of my hen do (maybe a few extras on top but no family invited) and i would like them to plan my hen do.
Does anyone who has been in a similar position have any advice? Do I ask them all to plan it? Do I ask the 3 of them who 'get me' the most? And how do I ask them?! We all live around the country but constantly chat on whatsapp.
Any advice much appreciated! I just don't want to disrupt a very harmonious group of friends and I am the first one to get married so everyone is really excited. But everyone has very different tastes and you know- too many cooks!