How do I tell a friend that she's not a bridesmaid?

"Hello person A. Have you met person B? She's my only bridesmaid."

Um, the person you've just described doesn't sound like a friend to me. So I would be up front and say 'OH and I have decided on only one bridesmaid'. You can always ask her to help with things if she'd like to though...

Or if you feel kind

"I have chosen person B to be my bridesmaid. I hope you understand I only want one and she is my choice. I could really use your help with X, if you have any good ideas about that?"

Oooo I have a friend fishing for her invite to be MOH/BM as she has said I will be at her wedding. She asked me to be MOH and then a few later said 'I drunkly asked someone else'

I'm not even inviting her......so this is all going to go down horrendously.

Just show her this lol

I find it weird when people assume things... when you assume you make an ass of u and me

do the bridesmaids things without her and she will catch on that she is not the bridesmaid

I disagree. I think it is genuinely kinder to tell her straight out that she is not a bridesmaid, rather than leave anything to interpretation.

Yeah i agree with AC. I the type to leave it but the problem never actually goes away, its just gets worse.

but its not a case of blocking someone out - she made a stupid assumption she had no right to make... its not OPs job to deal with that since she didnt ask her or give her any indication she was going to be a BM

Next time she mentions about her BM dress or responsibilities I'd just calmly and kindly say "Sorry, you're not a bridesmaid. We've already decided on X. Hope you understand."

She doesn't sound like much of a close friend any more so surely she knows she's not a bridesmaid and never will be, I expect she's trying to guilt trip you into it and knows exactly which buttons to press to do it!

If she's really still upset you met your OH before she did, then she really needs to re-evaluate her life and move on!

I agree with just telling her, don't leave it just have a calm conversation with her. You don't have to tell her your real reasons if you don't want to just word it how others have said above

Tell her straight. Next time she mentions it just say that so and so is your only bridesmaid but as she wants to be involved perhaps she can help you with something else.

I think she's a bit of a cow.... but if she wasn't then I'd suggest she does a reading or something.

She sounds like a bit of a cow tbh ... Just tell her sorry we've decided on having one bridesmaid x

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She's acted like a bit of a mare actually. I mean what kind of friends suggests that your HTB would go for her instead??

I'd say outright: "I'm sorry X, but I'm only having one bridesmaid."

If she asks why, tell her. Tell her that you thought your current bridesmaid is better suited to the job, tell her you're not comfortable with her in that role, tell her that your plans don't account for two bridesmaids, tell her that you made a pact with your current bridesmaid years ago.

Good luck honey.

Wow she sounds interesting anyway :s I would just say you had decided from the start you only wanted one bridesmaid and that it's X