How do I uninvite someone?!

Honestly? I don't think you can, it would be really bad form.

Presumably these friends are all grown-ups, can't they just sort it out between themselves? I'm afraid I'd be telling them I've got bigger things to think about at this late stage.

Do you want to be friends with this girl? Do you care if she never speaks to you again?

If you don't want her there, and you don't care if she hates you forever then be truthful, but polite. Just explain that due to her falling out with your h2b's sister you don't think it would be a good idea if she came, as obviously this could make things awkward and your first priority has to be to family.

WSS

And if you do have to do it, I don't think Facebook is the way. It should really be at least over the phone.

Tell them all to grow up. Im sure they are over the age of 14 and therefore capable of spending a few hours being civil.

I would phone her and explain the problem, she might not want to come anyway now

I don't really care about her at all, she's managed to get my mum involved which I don't think was too clever on her part. I don't care if it's bad form - we only invited her cos she was freinds with sil2b. My mate's suggested a formal approach - we wish to univite you of the pleasure of your company type thing, which would be funny

Think I'll just go with polite honesty

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Are you ok with this girl? She sounds like she's tryng with you.

How many friends of his sister have you invited?

She might have bought her outfit/booked hotel to come.

She must have done something really out of order for you not to want to invite her surely?

ETA i think you've already made your mind up so if your going to do it then be honest with her. You're not invited anymore because you will make my sil2b feel uncomfortable. I would also apologise to her for this.

IMO you don't univite someone, especiallly not so close to the wedding. Very poor form.

And to do it on facebook? Really rude if you ask me.

Pick up the phone, rinmg her and ask how she feels about attending the wedding now she has falled out with SIL2B, if she's okay with still going to the wedding let her come.

Nice.

WSS

Lovely!

What a lovely idea. Not.

How unbelieveably rude.

WSS!

I don't knowher well enough to have her phone number, she got invited because she was friends with sil2b, she's not friends with her anymore. I can see she might have bought stuff to wear and I'm not relishing the thought of univiting her but I like my sil2b a hell of a lot more!

and my friend was joking and it was funny!

You sound like you're the type of person to be enjoying this with your SIL2B and all her other friends that you've invited to your wedding. Poor girl.

You need to think if you would like this done to you if you fell out with someone.

This girl could potenially have gone out and spent over £100 on a dress, which is average for a wedding outfit.

Seriously what yor friends said wasn't funny, it was just rude.

If you ahve to facebook her, write her a message, not on her wall. Put something like

'Hi,

I just wanted to send a quick email becuase I obviously know what happened with SIL2B's name. Obviously it's quite close to the wedding now and we appreciate that you have probably got your outfit sorted etc, but we don't want you to feel like you have to come if it will be uncomfortable. It's up to you of course, just let us know what you decide.

If you do decide to come we'll try our best to seat you separately and hope that things won't be too awkward.

Cheers, let me know

bees'

My gut feeling says that you'll ignore all our comments and write what you want anyway though.

If I fell out with someone and was invited to their brothers wedding I'd use my common sense and not go to be honest, I wouldn't expect her brother to take my side over her sister.

I'm not enjoting it at all, I'm putting off uninviting her beause I'm not best at confrontation and don't like upsetting people. I just tend to put family over someone I barely know, to me that's a good thing.

But it's not your issue to sort. It's nothing to do with you. If your SIL2B doesn't want her to go then your SIL2B should call her and talk about it. I assume they are adults after all.

I don't see how this is your problem and I can't see why you should univite someone over a falling out that is nothing to do with you.

Could your sil2b not speak to her if she was her guest? Or could you not get her telephone number from your sil, presummable if she knew her enough to bring her as a guest to your wedding she at least will have her number?

it's kind of got something to do with me because it'smywedding...

Get her number off your SIL, she must have it? Although I have a feeling you are just going to Facebook her anyway.

With less than a week to go I'd not be bothering over a falling out that had nothing to do with me.

If you wanted us all to agree and be fluffy with you, you should ahve posted on a different forum.

We're just being honest, and honestly I don't think you should univite her as it's just so unbelieveably rude. Especially if you do it on facebook. Why your SIL2B cant deal with it like an adult and call her and talk about it I don't know.

I'd put money on it.

Why dont you ring her an chat about it, she may not want to come anymore anyway, I dont think I would if your SIL was the only reason she was going to the wedding then she would have no reason to go. However, she may feel you and her are friends now. talk to her then you can stop worrying about it. I am sure you have better things to do this close to your wedding.

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I'm so glad i didn't invite my friends friends to my wedding.

Did you invite er on the request of SIL2B? if so, and she has fallen out with her, get her to do it. It sounds like you hardly know the girl so god knows why she would be coming to your wedding anyway

I'm gonna get myfella to sort it out, i'm not happy getting in touch with her.

See, I'm not horrible! Just trying to make things nicer for my sil

This all seems a little childish to me. Did you invite sil plus one, or did you send an invite just to her. If you invited her personally I think you should just all grow up and act like adults for the day. If you invited her as a plus one then surely she wont come anyway.

I wish I had the luxury of inviting people I didn't know to my special day.

You've got enough to deal with before your wedding. Your SIL2B is the one that should be ringing her if she's the one with the problem.

Good god! Are you about 12? If you sister-in-law has specifically requested that this other girl doesn't attend (which in itself is pretty selfish) then she should be the one to contact her and certainly NOT via facebook.

I'm confused about why you would invite someone you don't actually know to the wedding... Sounds to me like any uninviting should be done by the party who has the problem (i.e. SIL2B) rather than you or your H2B. Surely this close to the wedding you both have more important things to think about. Do you know that SIL2B does have a problem or is it an assumption?

Surely they can all get on for your special day? Why dont u have words with them all and tell them that u dont want any tension as it will ruin your day!

Or you could just tell this girl that you dont want to cause any grief and tension on the day and u think its best if she wasnt to come - id do it over the phone tho!

Good luck

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