How to ask bridesmaids

Personally I just asked in person where possible and over the phone for my MOH as due to lockdown I couldn’t get up to Liverpool from London.


Everyone was happy (as was I went asked in that manner to be a BM). I don’t really understand the elaborate proposal but to each their own.

View quoted message Thanks! I was just going to ask but I started to doubt myself with all this proposal things popping up !

I would have asked mine in person, but due to lockdown I sent little handmade cards.

View quoted message I know right. To be honest it was lovely telling the 3 of them why I wanted them in my bridal party. I told them individually so we also had a nice natter.


For our flower girl and ring bearer (my little cousins) we told them in person as we were visiting anyway. You really don’t need some elaborate/expensive event to make the ask meaningful.

I think just asking them is fine. I only have 2 bridesmaids so got them a little box of things off Etsy just to make it a bit more special. It didn't cost a great deal and I was lucky enough to be able to give it to them when restrictions were eased last year.

There's nothing wrong with giving them a gift if you want to, but do remember that the 'bridesmaid proposal' gifts are designed by people who are trying to part you with your money! A phone call, email or card is all that is necessary.

I just called mine (my two best friends), then sent them a card each with a note in afterwards. I've not felt the need to send them a gift, but I think that is a personal choice.

I think sending a card or letter is a nice, touching way to ask and gives them a momento that they can keep with all the lovely things you've said about them.

I tried to make it a little special. I organised brunch (in the summer) for my birthday and announced it then. Made them handmade cards and gave a small bottle of prosecco.

I did a gift box for my best friend and my sister.


Admittedly I went a little overboard with them both.

For my best friend:Maid of honour cookies for EtsyMaid of honour candle from EtsyLipstick from Charlotte TilburyHandmade lilac silk scrunchie from EtsyLipbalm from Glossier Mini prosecco bottle CardPersonalised lilac notebook from EtsyI cant remember what else but I had lilac tissue paper, pictures of us stuck inside the box and heart confetti.
For my sister it was more nostalgicersonalisd friendship bracelet from EtsyRing dish from Oliver BonusThe Beanie Baby she had as a child and lost from EbayHandmade lilac silk scrunchie from EtsyLipbalm from Glossier Bridesmaid candle from Etsy