How to ask for wedding gift contributions

We are having a wooden wishing well on the day and will put a poem in the invites like this:

The tradition of the wishing well,
Is one that's known by all.
Go to the well, toss in a coin
And as the coin does fall.
Make a wish upon that coin,
And careful as you do.
Cause as the well's tradition goes,
Your wishes will come true.

So on this special day or ours,
The day that we'll be wed.
Don't hunt for special gifts
But give money is it's stead.
And as you drop the envelope,
With money great and small,
Remember, make your wish
As you watch your money fall

Id just write something like:

As you all know we have been living together for 'x number' of years and therefore have everything we need. If you would still like to give us a gift for our future together then money towards our honeymoon would enable us to make it extra special

This is what we have written with regard to gifts

We are not expecting gifts but should you wish to contribute something then we would appreciate a donation to our honeymoon pot! We are planning on going on honeymoon in October so who knows where we will go? (we are getting married in august but having a delayed honeymoon and having a few days in the family caravan straight after)

I would do it like this too. I personally don't like the money poems.

I would just like to say a massive than you for all your lovely ideas....

you've helped me a lot xxxxx

Can I also suggest that you "could" get a wedding gift list set up with Trailfinders and they send out gift list cards much the same as John Lewis or Debenhams would. Your guests then have a choice of either 'chipping in' or buying you experiences that could make your honeymoon even more special

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Id be annoyed by some kind of cheesy poem which basically tries to mask the fact you are asking for money. I would prefer the direct approach and wouldn't really have a problem with it, although I would moan to my partner about it coz I like to maon. But if you just asked nicely and honestly due to your circumstances, people have a choice to donate as much r as little as they want and is probably cheaper than gifts...

How you'd collect the money I would be interested to find out...

I typed this up last night to go in with our invites...

The biggest and most enjoyable present you could give either of us is your attendance at our special day.

As you know we have lived together for a number of years and have everything we need for our house.

However if you would like to honour us with a gift then we are requesting contributions toward our Honeymoon which we would be delighted to receive.

You can do this by visiting www.firstchoice.co.uk and quoting this reference:

"Love is an ideal thing, marriage a real thing." - Goethe

Most of the people coming to our daughters wedding knew that they have lived together for 3 years and have most things they need for the house so were quite happy to donate to their honeymoon without the need for asking. So they got free leaflets printed up by Trailfinders who they opened their honeymoon account with. They sent them 100 leaflets with their names and wedding date on and details of how guests could donate if they wanted to. Edited to say that they sent the leaflets out with the invites.

My friend had a wishing well at her wedding and sent a note in the invite saying

Because at first we lived in sin

We've got the sheets and rubbish bin!

A gift from you would be swell

But we'd prefer a donation to our wishing well.

We didn't mention gifts in ours at all and people have been sending us cheques.

A few people asked if there was a gift list, we said our parents could help with ideas, but not to fret about it.

Dunno if that helps

We're in the same situation, but we want a new kitchen for a wedding present! We'll add a note with the invites saying that we don't have a gift list but if they'd like to give us something we'd appreciate Ikea voucher or cash towards the new kitchen. And we'll be setting up a postbox at the reception with a picture from the planning gizmo to show peole what they're contributing to.

For honeymoon there are several 'gift list' people, http://www.1bigpresent.co.uk/ , https://www.honeyfund.com:443/, https://www.buy-our-honeymoon.com/ are all popular, or just google 'honeymoon fund'.

Personally I really don't like the poems or the wishing well idea and would probably not give money if I was asked in this way. It offends me! I'd much prefer a straightforward ask, preferably knowing what the money was going towards, especially if wedding related like the honeymoon.