How to deal with fussy bridesmaids?

If you're paying, you decide. Provided, of course, that you are sensitive to the BM's wishes (not toeing the line, just sensitive). As in, if she wants a long dress due to religious etc reasons, then a mini skirt would be insensitive. I'm sure anyone can put up with a dress for one day. If they are paying, then they have more say, naturally, since they may want to wear the dress again.

I had the exact same as you. 2 BMs, one easy going, one errr.. demanding. I just smiled sweetly and was very non commital to everything she said, trying to bide my time until we went to try on. Funnily enough once everyone was there she was happy as could be to go along with a dress that was the polar opposite of what she was telling me she would only wear. Sometimes its easy to say things without actually meaning them x

If she's being unreasonable about a perfectly nice dress, tell her that unless she bucks up, you'll put her in the archetypal pistachio-coloured ruffled monstrosity ?

Well what it is, I started looking at knee length kind of 50 style dresses... I mentioned it to my bridesmaid and the fussy one said that she can't wear knee length...
As I hate my legs I gathered that it was probably because she didn't want to show her legs... so I found a maxi style dress... I showed it to her and she told me she can't wear a long dress because it would make her look short and round, because she's short.
So she asked me to opt for something above the knee, but I can't find anything that looks bridesmaid?
I'm buying the dresses.

If you are paying then I think you need to try a different tactic. Find a few dresses you like, have your BMs try them on and give them options between those you have chosen. I think with someone fussy, you have to stop asking her what she thinks/wants or she could have you running around like a headless chicken trying to find a dress that might not exist!

This, she can't realistically expect you to find a minidress that still looks bridesmaid-y. I would also say "why don't you have a look online and let me know if you find anything suitable"...she might surprise you and find something suitable, or it might make her realise her demands are a bit unrealistic.

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When I got married both my bridesmaids had rather large boobies. I knew they would feel uncomfortable with a strapless dress or something that they could not were a bra with. Apart from that they wore what I told them to. ? It's your day not theirs. They are there to support you, I would remind her of this!

Totally agree with what you're all saying. I'm just thinking the day is about me and my OH getting married and not about what length the bridesmaid dresses are, I'm fed up of stressing out about it, I'm not surprised why people elope, it's meant to be a very small wedding anyway so I don't even know why I'm worrying about the length of the dresses!!!

Totally taking away what all this is about!! x

I agree with this also, only thing is she's not really "short" I'm 5'4" and she's a few inches taller than me... I'd say around 5'6" which as far as I know is actually above average height? x

I have 4 bridesmaids all different heights from 5ft 4" to 5ft 10" and a size 8 to a size 16, rather than get involved in the I want I want (which my sister was the culpret, everyone else was just really please to be asked and would have worn anything), I bought 4 beautiful dress and sent them the link on the house of fraser website telling them I'd bought them.

Three of them were estatic as they are gorgeous and 1 of them (my sis surprise surprise), found fault with everything and refused to try it on.

I very calmly said "you don't have to wear it, I will send it back", she stopped moaning and been fine since.

If you are paying don't give people the chance to mess you about - they will, buy what you want them to wear.

I don't want my girls looking anything other than sensational, which they will.

Good luck xxx

I don't think a full length dress necessarily makes you look short. If it's shapeless then yes, but an empire line dress can give the illusion of height. I'm only 5ft and happily wore a full length bridesmaid dress last year.

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Hey everyone in case you were wondering I've decided on a dress and I've ordered it so they'll have to just deal with it!
I got a knee length "twist and wrap" dress so they have the dress and colour I want but they can change it and be unique in their own way!
I refuse to discuss it any further than that! haha x

Good for you!!! X