So my fiancé and I are getting married in October '25. My cousin just told us that she will be getting married a few weeks before us.
Mine is clearly inferior on paper, being a hotel venue VS a huge, beautiful church. They have more money so can afford fancy decorating/catering whereas my fiancé and I cannot despite our savings. I KNOW our weddings will constantly be compared and now I'm scared some of my family may drop out of my day because they need to financially recover from Cousins.
I want to be happy for her, to be excited to spend the day celebrating her and her fiancé, but I can't help but feel sore. Obviously my announcement must have stirred some ideas, since she admitted herself they hadn't thought of anything before I made the date announcement. I want to believe it wasn't done on purpose, but the more toxic side of my thoughts think there's some venom going on here, something I know I need to work on to move past it.
I don't like feeling like this, I'm so aware of how it makes me sound; childish, entitled, spoiled.
How, if you felt it, did you guys deal with your own wedding envy and the hurt that comes with it? I'm trying to remind myself that it's about me and my fiancé, our little family and how the day is about us sharing our love - but then I remember that my wedding isn't going to be as good, will be compared since they are so very close together and I WILL be reminded me of that by others and I feel deflated and saddened by it. That my day will be greatly overshadowed. It doesn't help that its rather clear to me the rest of the family are more excited by hers.
Please be kind, I'm beating myself up over this more than it sounds.