i don't have anyone to invite!!!

I am so sorry you feel this way, my partner was the same, barely any family and I cone from a huge family. We planned a small ceremony of 50 people and agreed we would have half as family and the rest were mutual friends. The way we looked at it is that my family will now be his family and as long as we had people there that were supporters of our journey and life, that was what mattered. We then opened up the evening to other extended family and friends and had around 120 people.

The main thing is the 2 of you joining together, guest numbers and fancy venues really don't matter, you do what you are comfortable with. You can have a nice wedding without inviting lots of people, for us, we preferred the intimacy of a smaller guest list as we actually got to spend time with our guests.

I hope you can come up with something that feels right for both of you, i would write out a potential guest list and then scrutinize it, we found people we had on the list as must haves actually were not as a lot of the family were being invited out of etiquette rather than want as we rarely see them. You will need to compromise a bit but I am sure you can reach an agreement on numbers that makes you both happy

Don't worry about having even numbers. A marriage is supposed to be a celebration of two people joining together as one new family unit, so who has the most people attending isn't really relevant.

Talk to your OH about a way forward. Would you be happy to have a micro wedding, or if you had a larger wedding, would you mind that most of the guests were her family & friends? I've been to a few weddings where one partner has been from overseas, so they had very few family & friends in attendance. They just didn't divide people up by 'side' at the ceremony, so unless you asked someone how they knew the couple, you wouldn't have known if they were the bride's friends or the groom's.

Talk to your partner about this - I'm sure you can find a way forward that works for you both x

So I get married in March 2023. It's literally my son on my side I don't have family but my H2b has family we're having a tiny wedding 5 people due to distance. It's your love and you two that matters your W2Bs family will be your family. It's a lot more common than you think. And think the smaller the wedding the more you can spend on the details and not guests make it your perfect day for all your love you have.