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i don’t want a wedding

Unhappybride, 31 October, 2020 at 22:19 Posted on Planning 0 1

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Hi
I am looking for some advice.
I got engaged a couple of weeks ago! I live my fiancé to pieces, and want to spend the rest of my life with him, but I absolutely do not want a wedding!
He knows how I feel but keeps saying I’ll regret not having a wedding in the future. I just want to go to the registry office the 2 of us one day, and come out married.
I have always dreamed of getting engaged and having kids, but never the wedding. The thought of a ceremony and a white dress gives me anxiety, and I have had nightmares almost every night since we got engaged as I know he wants a big wedding, and is already trying to find ways of making it smaller for me.
I don’t know what to do!

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Latest activity by RomanticGreenStationery27135, 1 November, 2020 at 18:09

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RomanticGreenStationery27135 · 1 November, 2020 at 18:09
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When you say he wants a 'big' wedding - how big?
In any marriage, you need to be able to compromise - can you have a registry office wedding but with a few guests instead of just the witnesses? How about you just wear a really smart new outfit (dress, trouser suit, whatever makes you feel 'dressed up') instead of the big white frock?
Do you think you'd feel better about it if the legal side were private and then you had a small celebratory meal after?
Think about what might work for you and see if you can come to some kind of midway meeting point!
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