I love a dress that might not love me back...

Hi

Personally I would look around as you want to make sure you're comfortable on the day. You want to enjoy your day and not worry about falling out of your dress or stressing about the bra. I'm sure you will find a dress you feel amazing in and that you don't need to worry about.

What about the stick on bras. Not sure how good they work especially with bigger boobs but might be worth a look if your hearts set in this dress x

Jenny packhams are beautiful but think long and hard about it - underwear as you've discovered is a nightmare!

I'm now selling my JP, for a few reasons mainly as I want tea-length but I never could get undies to work with it!!!

But saying all that if you love it go for it! LOL I was no help sorry!

I think you answered your own question- you are going to be uncomfortable and worry all day. Is that what you want for your wedding day?

I agree, it's very hard for other dresses to feel the same after you've tried on a JP dress. I tried a couple on despite the fact they were well out of my price range, but the lady was willing to sell me a sample cheaper so thought i might as well. I absolutely loved the fabric and movement of them and it's been hard to find something quite the same, but i ended up deciding against it, also for boob reasons! My concern was similar to yours, in that i just didn't think i would feel completely comfortable and confident in it as i prefer to be quite well supported. Another sway was that, even with the discounted sample dresses, they were still quite pricey.

Maybe try it on again with the new underwear and have a good jiggle and jump around to put it to the test! If you still have doubts then don't put yourself under pressure to buy it as it will only carry on worrying you.

I have to say, I have E - EE cup boobs too and I cannot imagine wearing a dress that floaty - my dress is going to be well structured and corsetted to within an inch of its life!!!

However, if you feel comfortable and confident that your boobs look good and wont fall out, then go for it!

Could you add a straight back strap to the dress in pale silver or white? Just wide enough to cover the bra strap? I don't know what the back looks like and it also depends how attached you are to the design of the back.

I've got quite a new bust of 34F due to having children and recently ordered over £500 of lingerie to try on at home (almost all of it is being sent back!)

What I have found is that with these ❤️❤️ babies, unsupported, their weight means they lie quite low and flat. They can be pulled up, and then actually look fab and I love showing off the cleavage! But my "decent" cleavage is now in a different place to where it was before!! ? I couldn't wear anything this low cut as my boobs would need a teeny bra, which would result in huge separation, which makes them look droopy!

As I was trying on all the bras yesterday I found that anything that claimed to "push up" actually was just tight, and pushed FLAT! They went up and in, but they also got squashed and made me look like I had dinner plates!

Grimmer than a grim thing.

My suggestions would be:

Go to somewhere like Rigby and Peller - lots of £££, but I think they are the proverbial B0ll0ck$ when it comes to lingerie, if they can't help you - no-one can!

Look into ways of adapting the dress to accommodate your bra (can it take some sort of panel across the lower part of the V-neck?)

Look for another dress (not my favourite suggestion, but still a practical one)

Do you think you could get it altered in any way so that it feels a bit more structured?

It is a beautiful dress, and I can understand why you have fallen in love with it! I tried a similar one on when I was looking and I just loved it!

I would say that you need to go back and try it on again, with the underwear you have bought. As someone else has said, really jiggle about in it and see what you think. Can you take a friend with you for their opinion? Perhaps speak to a few lingerie shops in the mean time for advice?

One thing I would say about getting a more structured dress is be aware of how warm it will be. It'll be warm in Ibiza in the summer and you don't want anything too heavy or restrictive.

Thank you everyone for you incredibly helpful comments, I came on as more of a place to rant and feel sorry for myself but you have really helped make me think that I might still have a chance of wearing this dress - Hitched is brilliant at times like this!

Starstruck I was looking at them today and thinking of checking out one of their bespoke services. I just wonder how bespoke they actually are, I hope its not just fabric etc but what I really need is total bespoke design. Oh dear bring on the big bucks!!

So Ive been to see the dress and it was absolutely beautiful - as I knew it would be - and fit like a glove. The whole bra thing wasn’t as big an issue as I thought it would be as the dress also provided lots of support. I wore the Ultimo frontless bar and it was fine at the front but still needed the back strap. I didnt spend ages trying options though as the dress been altered by a bad seamstress as the hem was all skew and much shorter on one side. It obviously didn’t bother the owner but it REALLY worried me and if Id had it straightened it would have been too short. Also if you think about it the wonderful thing about Jenny P dresses is the way the flow and move so mistake was sooooo obvious!

So I’m ringing around Jenny P stockists to see if I can find it cheaper than in the boutique, without getting to excited and being practical, and if not I still have 6 months to go so I can go back to the dress drawing board.

? Im pretty calm about it all though