My cousin has recently sacked me as her bridesmaid, I just want to get some opinions on the situation.
When I was asked to be her bridesmaid (the only one at her wedding) she said my only duties were to walk her down the aisle and help her on the day by carrying her stuff & taking her to the toilet. A bit later on she asks me to plan her hen party (hotel, meal, bars, other activities) with just three weeks notice. She kept changing her mind saying she wanted to go abroad so I looked for flights for her then she said she can't be bothered with the hassle so said she just wanted to go away with me & her mum in England. A couple of days later she creates a hen party group on Facebook adding 20 people and then tells me to start looking for places to stay for a night out in Birmingham. She said it absolutey has to be in the centre so I looked for hotels and warned her that not a single reasonably priced room was available for so many people at such short notice but she just said 'oh you can do it'. About 5 days later she sent me a list of people who were definitely coming so I straightaway started looking for hotels seems we now knew how many rooms we needed for definite. I found some awful places that were a couple of miles away from the centre which she said were fine (I wasn't so sure!) so I was going to book it but then she said they had to be twin rooms because it's unfair for people who don't know each other to have to share a bed (fair enough) so I started looking for twin rooms with absolutely no luck...I spent hours searching on every website imaginable but nothing seemed suitable. So I stopped searching as it was getting late and I was going on holiday the next day.
On the first day of my holiday (she knew I was going away) she sends me a message saying 'I'm worried about my hen party' which I ignored because I was busy enjoying my holiday & didn't want to think about it! About 30 mins later her husband to be sends me abusive messages saying he's extremely concerned about me being a bridesmaid at HIS wedding because I'm putting absolutely no effort into the hen party, his best man did everything for him, I'm not taking charge & not communicating with the bride, it's unacceptable etc. I explained I haven't been given much notice and am doing my best despite the circumstances but nothing suitable for so many people seems to be available at such short notice. Then he said I shouldn't be moaning about the lack of notice because I told the bride 'don't worry, there's loads of time to find somewhere' which is an absolute lie! Obviously he didn't believe me when I told him I never said that. I just ignored him after that because, after all, I was trying to enjoy my holiday (which was booked waaaay before I even knew I was a bridesmaid)
So the next day I get a message from the bride saying 'I've sorted the hen party so you don't have to worry about it anymore. I'm really sorry but I don't want you as my bridesmaid anymore so you can eat what you want now (she put me on slimming world the week before so I could fit into my dress more comfortably) but obviously I still want you at my hen party and wedding. Enjoy your holiday' Obviously I was fuming at this point! She managed to book a hotel 25 mins away (£30 taxi ride) from Birmingham city centre which I could've easily booked if I hadn't been away if that's what she wanted but I when I was searching I was trying to find the best hotel possible, I don't think a hotel that far away is suitable myself.
After speaking to my granny yesterday, I found out the story just gets worse! She said the bride told her she doesn't want me as her bridesmaid anymore because I'm too fat for my dress and it was keeping her awake at night, sick with worry that I won't fit in it on the day so thought it was best not to have me as her bridesmaid anymore as she was still within the time frame to get her £250 back by returning it. Bearing in mind she couldn't even zip her dress up when she tried it on so she shouldn't technically be getting married if that's the way she wants to play it! I could fit in it, it was just a bit tight but she didn't even give me chance to lose weight, she sacked me after I'd been on the diet for just a week (at this point I'd lost 2 pounds anyway) I just thought that was the most stupid excuse I've ever heard and if she was that worried she could've returned it and just bought the next size up but it seems getting rid of me was the better option for her.
So do you think I should go to the hen party (now two weeks away) and the wedding? The way I've been treated, I'd be quite happy if I never saw my dearest cousin ever again. The way I see it my only crime is going on holiday & being fat (I'm only a size 12 as it is!) the wedding is 6 weeks away and she hasn't even given any invitations out. I think she only has herself to blame for rushing everything (it's like a shotgun wedding!) but she's making me out to be the villain when I strongly believe I've done nothing wrong and have been completely mugged off.
Opinions please!
