If you met today, would you still marry / be with your partner?

Sadly I doubt it very much. When we met, he was ambitious and a real driving force for trying to achieve and I loved that aspect of his character, I still do. However, this has morphed into a workaholic who very rarely switches off and I just don't think that if we were to meet today for the first time that he would even have time for a relationship, not to mention that I don't think that I would want to see so little of him and be let down due to work so much.

Its not sad, its just the way things are now and I like to think that we are both the product of what we made each other so are both to blame for the way our life shapes up now.

I doubt it. He's absolutely amazing, the most wonderful man i've ever met, but

1. i only went out with him because i couldn't think of a polite way to turn him down, i'm less polite now ?

2. i was exciting and interesting and fun and thin with a high sex drive when we met - i'm none of those things now so what would attract him?

3. did i mention he's amazing? but if i'd known i'd end up giving up my career (twice) and working in a call centre, watching several of our friends in their TV series', mostly because i've accommodated his career in everything, i'm not sure i would put myself through that, but then that might be the same with any man and this one is better than the rest.

? for madge and anyone who needs it.

and Fox, i'd 'ave yer....?

F-i-S, you and Mr Fox are both so beautiful, intelligent, interesting etc that if I didn't like you both so much I'd hate you for being such a golden couple ?

Mrs Magic ?

To answer the OP, like Sophie I think me and Mr Layabout are even more suited to each other now than we were when we met. But, I was 32 and he was 34 when we met. Had I met him any time before that, it would never have worked. Totally different life experiences, ambitions and priorities. I shudder to think what would have happened had I married any of the eejits I was with in my 20s.

Yes, in principle but I can't imagine how on earth we would ever meet now. We both still move and work in very different circles and it really was a miracle we met at all.

Things moved incredibly quickly with Mr E and I - we moved in together after less than a month of knowing each other. I am not a risk taker and it was completely out of character but it was definately the right thing to do. I knew from the outset where we would have issues and I was right. He works in a very demanding industry which does place a huge strain on our relationship at times and it can be hard to accept that he is putting his job and other peoples special occasions before his own friends and family. We get there though and he is getting better at balancing things and I am getting better at not taking it personally.

I feel we complement each other perfectly. We make each other more balanced. As my best friend once said, the great thing about us is that when I am living the good life in my yurt, subsistance farming to get by and my crops fail and my wind generator breaks I can always go to him and stay in his nice shiny 5* hotel to stay warm over the winter.? I am his conscience and he keeps me in the real world.

Things are different now we have our son. We didnt want children as we loved the freedom to do whatever whenever. Now our son is here that's just not possible and while I have no worries about our relationship, things have changed. We are finding our balance at the moment but we're getting there.

He is still, despite what he would have the world think, the kindest, most thoughtful and caring person I have ever met. He is incredibly intelligent and never ceases to amaze me. Mostly in good ways.

If I hadn't met him before now and it so happened that I did I would definately still be attracted to him. Whether he would feel the same way I don't know. I was a size 8 when we met and, well, I am nowhere close to that now.? I am also striped like a zebra, a lot more dishevelled and frayed round the edges.

I would say yes as we have similar interests and can talk easily with each other.

Although we met when I was 16 and he was 23, I'd still marry him if I met him today (12 years from when we actually met although I'm not sure if I could still pull him by talking about the Stone Roses ?)

We have loads in common and have amazing chemistry...we were just lucky to meet when we did as I love him more with everyday (sorry for for being fluffy!)