I've been really trying to keep my chin up about this, but it's been eating at me and I do feel very down about it - just hoping for a bit of perspective I guess.
I'm only having two bridesmaids (plus my guy MOH). One of my bridesmaids is getting married a couple of months before me, and she's having 5 bridesmaids. Apparently I was initially on the list, but got cut in due to pressure to include extended family members - I get that, family dramas can be so difficult. She's still got room two friends in her line up, but others were chosen over me.
The thing that upsets me is when she talked to me about it was that she implied that I got cut because I was the friend least likely to kick up a fuss about not being a bridesmaid - which just makes me feel like in being nice I get the short straw. I've tried not to show it but I'm actually really gutted not to be a bridesmaid, especially as my list of female friends is so small and therefore so precious to me, there's only two girls I would ever imagine wanting and being a bridesmaid for and actually she's the one I feel closer to as we've been through so much together.
The other thing she said was that it wouldn't be possible for her to have 6 bridesmaids, not because of money or anything, but because of keeping an equal number with her FH's groomsmen and he's not willing to add one more (even though she's added his sister for him when she really didn't want to) - which makes me feel a bit hurt as (1) it's like aesthetics is more important than our friendship and (2) that she won't stick up for me.
I've been nothing but understanding to her, as I love her and want her to have a wonderful day and I don't want to be the cause of any more wedding related stress, but inwardly I'm just feeling upset about it. The more my bridesmaids are getting involved in my wedding planning, the sadder I am that I can't be involved in hers, and the more it hurts that the friendship feels more important to me than her which just makes me feel a kinda bad about myself.
Has anyone else been in a similar situation? How did you dust yourself off?