Individual or group invite to your work office?

I would personally send out individual invitations and invite who you want to not who you think you should do, my oh was invited to a work colleagues wedding and I wasn't not too big of a deal.

There are 4 or 5 colleagues I really want to attend and they shall be getting individual invites, for the rest (who I'd like to come but won't really miss if they're not there) I will be making an invite poster in the staff room that they can tick their name off if they are coming. I'm only inviting them to the evening reception because I work in retail and since I have the day booked off only 2 other people would be allowed the same day off and it would just cause drama if I picked two.

I work in a similiar size office and am inviting everyone...they will all get a separate invite (I plan to get in early one day and leave them on their desks). I'll invite partners if I have met them (which on the whole, I haven't).

The surgery I work in has 4 other GPs, 10 full-time members of nursing staff, 5 more part-time nurses, 4 reception/office staff, the office manager, and about 8 million clinical support staff who work in our surgery on a once-a-week basis (nutritionist, community mental health team, community midwives yadda ya). I'm the surgery's "baby", as the most junior GP, and the entire team have been incredible in helping me find my feet. We're pretty much eloping, so the entire office is going to get an open invitation to our reception.

My partner works in a cardio team of 6 surgeons, and the surgical nursing team numbers about 50. Likewise, they'll get a general open invitation.

Amaranth - a little OT question, if you don't mind. You stated you and your partner's ages on another thread. I couldn't tell whether you were the older or younger (27 .v. 24) but it confused me when you say that you're a GP and your partner is a cardiac surgeon - at 24, one of you is far too young to be qualified in either position, no? And even at 27, it's pushing it for GP, I think impossible for a cardiac surgeon.

I think I am asking - are you, or her, Doogie Howser?

I would send a group invitation to people in the office, I think inviting without partners is fine, but not sure you would word this on a group invitation ?

How well do you get on with everyone?

Do you really want 17 people from work there? Or are there maybe 5 who you get on really really well with?

I work in an office with 7 people and am only inviting 2. To be fair, one of the girls is my friend anyway and the other I get on really well with. The others I feel are just my colleagues and although I do get on well with them I'm not sure I want them to come to my wedding.

I have the excuse that my wedding is on a Friday so if I invited everyone then the office would have to shut but I still gave the 2 girls their save the dates in secret.

Is it an etiquette to invite people from work, that I've missed? Maybe because I've only been at my job a year (big organisation) and in my new department only three months, but there's only one person really that I class as a friend and would invite (evening only mind). I'm only inviting close friends in the day and our guest list is already 86, there's people from uni/school who have had to be delegated to the evening only who I would much rather choose than people at work if I had the option!

Don't get me wrong I like and get on with all of my colleagues, but they're just that - colleagues!

..........although two people from my old work are invited to the whole day!

Is it an etiquette to invite people from work, that I've missed? Maybe because I've only been at my job a year (big organisation) and in my new department only three months, but there's only one person really that I class as a friend and would invite (evening only mind). I'm only inviting close friends in the day and our guest list is already 86, there's people from uni/school who have had to be delegated to the evening only who I would much rather choose than people at work if I had the option!

Don't get me wrong I like and get on with all of my colleagues, but they're just that - colleagues!

..........although two people from my old work are invited to the whole day!

Nah. I only invited a couple of people at work, who are friends more than colleagues.

Same.

I've done individual invitations. I'm inviting the people in my team based in my office to the whole day (with partners). My boss and another close colleague who are based in another office have received evening invites, again with partners.

I don't think there is a right or wrong answer to this - it very much depends on your relationship with your colleagues.

I probably wouldn't have bothered but I am totally outnumbered by his side - 30/50 at the moment and 15 of mine are our mutual friends. I didn't grow up here and haven't kept in touch with many from home to invite them so the only other people I know to invite are the girls I work with. We're having 150 at night and I'll still be outnumbered 50/100

I probably wouldn't have bothered but I am totally outnumbered by his side - 30/50 at the moment and 15 of mine are our mutual friends. I didn't grow up here and haven't kept in touch with many from home to invite them so the only other people I know to invite are the girls I work with. We're having 150 at night and I'll still be outnumbered 50/100

I probably wouldn't have bothered but I am totally outnumbered by his side - 30/50 at the moment and 15 of mine are our mutual friends. I didn't grow up here and haven't kept in touch with many from home to invite them so the only other people I know to invite are the girls I work with. We're having 150 at night and I'll still be outnumbered 50/100

I'm a general practice registrar, 3 years post-uni. Went to uni at 16, finished at 21. My partner is almost a year into her residency in cardiothoracic surgery. We're both baby doctors, basically; got the education, still getting the on-the-job training.

So you ARE Doogie Howser

Got the education? You mentioned before that one of you had a degree underway....how does it work in the States? Your partner has skipped a general surgery residency?

Not to mention starting university very young - I always thought US medical training was 8 years of university in total!

Makes me feel positively underachieving. ?

I'm a tad bit confused, you started university at 16 what about a levels were you a child genius or something?

in response the original question, I find it a tad impersonal when I see wedding invitations pinned to the notice board in the kitchen area at work and find it a bit of inviting people for inviting sake, each to their own I suppose!

I'm a tad bit confused, you started university at 16 what about a levels were you a child genius or something?

in response the original question, I find it a tad impersonal when I see wedding invitations pinned to the notice board in the kitchen area at work and find it a bit of inviting people for inviting sake, each to their own I suppose!

She's sloooooowly working on a part-time chemistry degree. Her undergrad is in plant science, and she kept on taking undergrad classes in chemistry during the summers while she was at med school (part, in thanks, to her mother working for the university and thus free tuition). It's gone somewhat by the wayside as her hours are pretty manic for the most part, but it's in progress. I was sane and did one degree, like a normal person .

I'm not entirely sure how it works in the states, or her residency; my understanding was (admittedly from Grey's Anatomy) that you do a general surgery residency then specialise, but she's been able to specialise very early in her career. Her hospital has a very shiny new (profitable as all hell) cardio surgery unit that may be what allows for the specialisation. I'd be better getting her to spell it out to me like I'm 5.

In response to the poster asking about A Levels: in Scotland, we sit Highers. I got 5 As in my first sitting, at 16, and went straight to university rather than staying on for 6th year.

I started university at 16 in Scotland too. It's quite common up there.

wow that's amazing, I diddnt even know universities would allow under 18's to study. I imagine it must have been a nightmare for them having a minor studying there.

so how did this happen? Were you advanced two years in school? I diddnt realise that still happened.

You two must be the cleverest couple around!

*ahem, four degrees over here*

you don't need to have been advanced in school to start uni at 16 in Scotland. You sit highers (the required exams for university access) in the 5th year of high school between the age of 15 and 16 and can leave at the end of the term after your 16th birthday. That is the minimum age for university acceptance.

Ahem, my OH has his NVQ in business, that's worth at least 6 degrees or summink.

So, in Scottish universities, do the Union bars have to ask for ID?

So you do your standards early then?

I am just realising how little I know of the Scottish education system....

Do you do GCSEs??

They do standards and highers as opposed to gcses and a levels as far as I know.

it's not early by Scottish standards, it's the norm to sit them at 14/15. And, yes, you need ID to get into the student union. I had 2 years of not being able to get in. Kind of ruined the whole experience for me.

Boo to not going to the union until year three. Guess you would get loads if work done though!

whats the thought process behind it? Why do people do it and why is it better than staring uni at 18?