Interesting male perspective on if a women should hand back her engagement ring after a break up

No of course not! Its like handing back xmas pressies. I just wouldnt do it. Would you? ?

I think technically they should, I think however NO!

It was given to me wasnt it!!

Exactly! Its a damn pressy.

Stupid men.

So when i was 18 my boyfriend proposed then ran off with best mate ring cost over 2000 i sold it for 2200 and spent it on a nice girls holiday i say no in my situation it was tough luck x

I think tradition holds that if the engagament fails because the man breaks off the engagement, the woman is not obliged to return the ring, reflecting the ring's role as a form of compensation for the woman's damaged reputation. Seems fair!

Seems a bit harsh for some flighty t*rt to cheat on her bloke and then run off keeping the ring. I think in cases like this, she should return it.

Ooh fair point above,

i automatically blamed the man tho haha

Exactly WSS. Traditionally a woman just didn't break off an engagement. She was "grateful" just to be asked and to be married. So keeping the ring was compensation. I think if the woman changes her mind though, she should hand back the ring, equally compensating the bloke.

I have been engaged before, and when we broke up, the asked for the ring back... I gave him it... but would have liked to have kept it ?

My friend once had an engagement ring (about 10 years ago when she was 18) and she threw it down a lane when they split up after a night out. the next day she went back to find it and couldn't so either some lucky so and so found it and kept it, or it went down a drain.

Maybe he woke up earlier and got there first!

Would you want to keep a ring that reminded you of a failed relationship though? I would never have worn one if I had had one as it would feel a bit odd.

My friend kept it, sold it and their wedding rings on eBay, went to new York and found herself another man!!! Sounds like a good deal to me! I asked MrApples, he said the woman should keep it (think he worried it was a test, I'm in such a bad mood tonight though I think he might wonder if I'm plotting my escape!!!)

LMAO Mrs Apples, thats funny. Sorry about your mood though.

I think my OH would worry it was a test too, luckily he's out.

My friends engagement ring was I believe a cheap argos one, they were only 18 and pregnant so I dont think it was worth much, but she'd have sold it in a heartbeat after the split cos he sure as hell didn't pay towards the baby!! (but thats another story)

If I were the girl ,I'll mail the engagement ring ,without any words,forget everything,after all tomorrow is another day~

Personally I think that it depends on who breaks the engagement, and legally speaking .....

In Britain, the return of an engagement ring cannot be legally enforced unless there was an agreement to do so, as sometimes happens if it is a family heirloom

Most US states presume the ring is a conditional gift and must be returned if the engagement is called off

Irish law presumes that all engagement gifts are conditional on the marriage taking place. If it doesn’t, the gifts must be returned,

Canadian law says that whoever breaks off the engagement forfeits all claim to the ring

South Africa classifies engagement rings as tokens of sincerity. If the couple part, the rings are returned

I think i would always keep it because even if its me breaking the engagement there would be a good reason for it and the ring would be my compensation for putting up with him for however long.️?️

What's his compensation? A lucky escape...?

WSS.

I'd give it back.

If he cheated, or in some way broke my heart, I'd keep it and sell it to make up for him being a ***.

If I left him or it was a mutual parting, I'd give it back.

I think i'd give it back. As others have said, i wouldn't want to keep it as it would just be a reminder of the failed relationship. Actually makes me quite sad to think about it. I've only ever been engaged once and i can't imagine having to give the ring back. I see it every day and it makes me smile because it reminds me of my OH.

I would give back the ring if I broke up with him, or if we mutually broke up/drifted apart. I think it's only right.

If he cheated on me then I would keep it.

Not that any of that will happen ?

WSS.

I love how a lot of the men on pistonheads say "brake" up instead of "break" up... motors on their mind no doubt. (Me? Making sexist remarks? Pft, never!)

I never gave back my engagement ring when my ex broke up with me. It was only cheap anyway so I'm not sure what he would have done with it should he have kept it. It was white gold though, perhaps I'll sell it and use the money for my wedding. Ironic? ?

I think the giving of an engagement ring is a gift to seal the deal, and signifies commitment on both sides. I think a woman should always offer, and i think a man should always decline to take it back. Its just polite isn't it.

My MOH's ex cheated and insisted on taking the rings off her as he said they were his, as he paid for them and he was allowing her to wear them. Yes he was a right w@nker.

Why would you want it! I would give it back.

WSS. What would be the point in keeping it? It would have bad memories attached to it. I wouldn't feel right selling it (unless the man had done something terrible!).

Exactly WSS.

I wouldn't want to sell it, look at it, wear it, throw it away - I would want to give it back (IMO the honourable thing - regardless of how someone else has behaved, I would not want to do something that I was not proud of), and then move on.

I have just done exactly this! I sold all the jewellery my ex gave me, got quite a lump sum and put it towards my wedding dress! ha ha

If it was in my instance, i know i wouldnt leave H for any other reason (well i like to think anyway) apart from if he'd been a very naughty boy, so i would sell it and not feel guilty one nada!

Maybe it's just me, and maybe it's because our relationship ended reasonably amicably. But looking at my old ring doesn't make me angry or upset. It reminds me of how young and naive I was to accept in the first place and I sort of chuckle to myself and think how different things would be if we'd have actually tied the knot!

I'm sorry but I think that's quite icky. I would never use money from an ex/old relationship to help, financially, toward a new relationship, let alone a wedding.

It depends if you think of it as 'ex-money' or if its just old jewellery u dont want any more and it just so happens it was from your ex.

money's money!