Invitation wording re gift list

If I could do the 'sick' icon at my work computer, I would. Ghastly.

Why don't you not put anything in your info sheet, unless you agree to do the charity thing? You might have a few people contact you/parents to see if there is a list (believe it or not, some people like to to buy gifts from a list) and you might find that people buy you something anyway

Or you could do a money poem...[runs for cover]

As a stationer (albeit a new kid on the block) I've yet to be asked to put anything regarding gifts or charity donations etc in with invitations ....

as a bride, we didn't want gifts, simple as - been together too long, and people were having to spend a lot to come to our day as most lived overseas. But of course we got stunning gifts and lots of useful vouchers anyhow .... without mentioning it either way in any formal way whatsoever. We also did a charity collection on the day tied in with our free bar for the evening (get a free drink, make a donation to the charity bucket - and made 900 quid). So thats an option for you - don't mention it in your invitations at all but on the day do a charity collection if thats what you decide you want to do. People are more likely to give having had a great day and a few drinks!!

So just leave it out of your invitations!!! Guests will ask soon enough if they are in a position to buy a gift, and you can then say about the charity thing.... to be honest an invitation should be just that imo - not an invitation and 'oh btw - heres a gift list so you can go spend more money on us' .... (although I know you're not doing that, I'm just saying!

But please don't use the 'your presence is present enough' - thats just awful!

(Edited cos I initially replied as tho' you were having a gift list - dur!!)

Unless you decide to do the charity thing, I wouldn't mention gifts/money/vouchers at all. If people want to know what you'd like then they will ask - either you or parents etc. I wasn't presumptous by actually telling my parents what to say IF anyone asked them but they did know that we were hoping to get new wardrobes / fridge at some point so they said to people vouchers or money towards them would be lovely and very appreciated.

I agree - I had to cringe when I read it! At first I did just think I wouldn't worry about mentioning the fact we're not having a gift list but it was something H2B brought up. Thought it worth seeing what others do ?

Either don't mention it, or say "if you would like to give us a gift, we would appreciate a donation to xxx charity or vouchers for xxx shop".

Personally would never go to a wedding without giving a gift, and it saves hassle for you/your family if you just put some basic info on your invitations. Just my opinion though.

We arent having a gift list and arent mentioning presents at all. Just because we are choosing to get married, it doesnt lead me to expect someone to buy us a present for doing it

We are not doing a gift list, but are doing a 'give in celebration'.

don't know how we will word it, but maybe along the lines of "instead of a traditional gift list, we have set up a charity donation page at www.blahblahblah.org and are grateful for any donations you can offer". we won't say anything else.

I agree with this, and this is what we are personally doing (no gift list, not mentioning anything)

Hadn't even thought about the charity donation thing though - that's quite a good idea. *ponders*