Invitations!!! How early did you send them out?

Nothing wrong with sending a save the date note. I feel like a full invitation might get lost over that amount of time then people will come after you for answers that you've already sent off. Save the dates will give time for people to prepare for any days off needed but will still help you with your excitement! I also found it really hard not to get things sent out 😂 However if you want to do it and send it off then do it. Go with what you think is right Glad you are so excited tho and have fun planning! X

I was exactly the same as you just want to shoot t it from the rooftops, but from experience I would say send save the dates toward the end of the year, say October, as right now in the summer they can have less impact. Personally I wouldn't send actual invites till 6 months before. One reason is that over time your guest list may change, we had people on the list that we thought were must haves but changed our mind as we had drifted apart and also has new friends we really wanted, so I would definitely wait to send them. Is personal choice but it also allows you to play around with choices etc and be 100% on your list x

Don’t send them yet, in two years your guest list might look completely different and it’s an awkward conversation to have with someone uninviting them. There’s also RSVPs that you’ll have to keep track of and some people may not be able to commit so early on with potential changes in jobs/circumstances to keep in mind. Send save the dates to family and close friends though to use some of that early wedding planning excitement 😊

I’m getting married March 24 and have just sent out save the dates for similar reasons to you (excitement) and also because we are getting married Easter weekend so don’t want people to book holidays etc.


Jenna makes a great point about the guest list changes. We are having quite a small wedding so only inviting family and close friends so aren’t worried about that however what we have done is not named +1s on save the dates for people unless they are married/engaged/live together. While we have held space for some +1s we don’t want to give couples in very new relationships a +1, that relationship end and then them want to bring someone else random when we could give a +1 to someone else or invite a different person.

It’s definitely too early for a proper invitation though - you can’t ask people to commit nearly 2 years in advance literally anything could happen between now and then!

I would agree with the above, it is way too early for full invites. There is information that you need to put in the invites that you wont even have yet, such as menus and the order of the day. I am getting married in June 2023 and I've only just got my invites made and will send out in September.

I would send save the dates now and then hold off until at least 9 months before your wedding to send out full invites.

There are lots of other bits you can plan and book now, so you can do something wedding related.

I got engaged in December 2020 and the first things I did were book suppliers, decide on themes, look at flower ideas etc and created a mood board.