Inviting colleagues - evening reception

When I married the first time, I just sent one evening invitation to all my colleagues (it was sent in the post as we're in different parts of the country). I then gave specific day time invites to those I wanted to invite to the ceremony.

That aside, I think I'd respond to say that you're really tight on numbers at the moment and you'll let them know once responses come in whether you'll be able to accommodate any additional guests. That gives you a get out of jail card to later go back and say that you unfortunately don't have any capacity.

I think that if you're honest with them and just say that numbers are limited so it's just them invited for now but there might be space once you've had the RSVP's back that will be fine. We're inviting work colleagues to the evening but not sure on plus ones yet. Will have to see what the numbers look like.

I think this is a perfect response. They really shouldn't need plus ones if they are all/majority coming.

I agree with what's been said. I would say that due to number constrictions the invitation is for them as a group. I actually wouldn't mention cancellations at this point. As you say they do socialise together and if a couple of them decide not to attend you may wish to invite other people you know rather than their partners that you may not know.

This is exactly what I would do. Even if there are other people you'd invite before their + 1's you don't have to be honest and say that there has been cancellations!

Thank you all so much for your replies. It really has put me at ease and I think you're all right with your responses.

You get so wrapped up in wedding with planning that the littlest of things really do become such big issues in your head.

Now... i'll await the next dilemma!

Thanks. A.