Skip to main content

Post content has been hidden

To unblock this content, please click here

Charlotte
Dedicated February 2022 South East London

Inviting four children we don't know

Charlotte, 26 August, 2020 at 10:10 Posted on Planning 0 1

Going through our guestlist and we have ended up with a very small number of evening guests, to the point that we decided we might as well try to include them all for the whole day.

The trouble is, we were originally not inviting children of evening guests. Two couples now promoted to day guests are fiance's work colleagues and partners. I have met Couple A's two children, and am very happy to include them. Couple B have four children who we have never met. If we invite these six children, this would almost double the number of children attending our wedding! So I have three options:

1. Invite all six children. We have the budget (although two couples plus children would take up a whole table!) and they might not want to bring them anyway. Ignore that we are paying £120 for the privilege of having four small strangers to run riot. [I'm exaggerating for dramatic effect - I don't think they would run riot, but I suppose they might!]

2. Invite the two children I know but exclude the others. Not sure whether this would cause offence. I went to Couple A's baby shower so it is clear we have more of a relationship with them, but Couple B will see there are other children there too (albeit other children we know).

3. Don't invite any of the six children. Likely Couple A won't come for a whole day without their kids. If they do come without children, they will see the seven children we have invited and this may cause offence, especially as I see Couple A's oldest daughter fairly regularly. Couple B is less likely to be offended than in option 2, as theirs are not the only children excluded.

1 replies

Latest activity by RomanticGreenStationery27135, 26 August, 2020 at 11:31
  • R
    Genius July 2020 Monmouthshire
    RomanticGreenStationery27135 ·
    • Report
    • Hide content

    I would have a conversation with the parents - weddings can be pretty boring for children, and you may find that the parents of the four would love a break from their kids! Alternatively, parents with lots of kids can struggle to get babysitters, so not inviting them might make it hard for the parents to come. If budget were an issue, or you had huge numbers of couples with kids, then I agree you'd need to develop some kind of 'rule', but in this case, I would talk to the parents and ask what works best for them.

    • Reply

You voted for . Add a comment 👇

×


General groups

Hitched article topics