Hello all,
So basically I wanted to hear everyone’s thoughts on inviting people to Your hen do that potentially won’t be going to your wedding?
Bit of background, H2B and I don’t want a terribly big fuss as we don’t like too much attention and ther for example have decided to keep it super small and intimate with Just 22 people including us. This gives us 10 each plus ourselves. My immediate family and bridesmaids take up my ten. I have quite a few girlfriends that I would LOVE to invite, I have been friends with for years and do care for but don’t talk to as often and as closely as my bridesmaids. I’ve said we can make up for it at the hen do though which I’m not sure what will be planned that will be up to my bridesmaids.
I’ve been made aware that it’s really strange to invite people to your hen do/expect them to pay out money if they are not getting a wedding invite. It’s not because I don’t want them there or I don’t value their friendship, but with only have 10 spaces and it’s taken up by my immediate family and bridal party we potentially don’t have space.
I am not sure if I’ve completely missed the mark here and been rude in suggesting my group of girlfriends come to my hen do but won’t be at the wedding or if it’s a good way for them to be party of the celebrations. I understand maybe not being able to afford a hen weekend away or being disappointed at not being at the wedding but I guess if my friends were having such a tiny wedding I’d just be happy to be part of their celebrations regardless but maybe it’s unfair to think others would feel the same.
FYI we thought about throwing a big party for everyone else to come to after the wedding. Just wondered what everyone thought in these circumstances above?
Thanks in advance ? xx
