Inviting work colleagues to wedding - giving invites etiquette

Cant you send an email to the ones you want to invite asking for thier address?

We both had a similar problem.

We didn't invite everyone. It just isn't practical.

Most work colleagues are invited to ceremony, and evening reception. Only close friends and family are invited to the wedding breakfast so everyone else gets a few hours spare time inbetween - which we don't see as a problem really.

You could say to everyone else they're welcome to attend your service but you're sorry that due to budget/capacity/whatever reason they aren't able to be invited to the rest of the celebrations.

Just because you work with someone doesn't mean that a) they are actually what you'd consider a friend, and b) they have an automatic invite to bring themselves, their partner and families along to your big day especially if you've never met them.

If people get uppity because they aren't invited... then they've justified why you didn't invite them.

For work colleagues I just put their name on the invite packs and handed to them discretely on the same morning. It doesn't matter if you don't know their home addresses really.

Wifey - I think you're right in posting out the invitations. There's something really lovely about something as exciting as a wedding invitation dropping on your door mat.

Do NOT get their details off of the database. This is an invasion of their privacy, is likely to break numerous company rules about use of and secure storage of data and could land you in a while heap of trouble.

It strikes me a little odd that you would find it rude to ask for their addresses, if you consider them to be close enough friends to invite to your wedding. If i were in your position, I'd drop them a short email to say you'd like their addresses so you may send them an invitation to your wedding but ask for their discretion as you cannot afford/want/accommodate the sheer numbers of people at your work place.

Good luck!

I agree with cricketbride, if theyr close enough friends to invite, then asking for their address' over email should be an issue should it? Im sure theyl love that youve asked!!!

I work in a team of 25, 14 in my office and I feel guilty but I don't want to invite them. Everyone who has gotten married in our team has invited everyone to the day or evening. I work with two of my closest friends and they are bridesmaids and a couple of other people from diff areas of the company have been invited but I just dont understand why I should invite people to my wedding that I wouldn't invite to my birthday! However I may cave I've got a while...

I think as others have said if you drop them a mail then they'll be really happy you want them there, I know I would.