Is this appropriate attire for a wedding guest?

I think you look stunning. What colour is the dress? I would rather a guest turn up in the this style of dress rather than a really short one.

View quoted message Thank you so much for your reply and kind words, Laura!


The dress is a cream colour, slightly yellow-ish; the material of the skirt is tulle. My colleague’s concern was that it might look too bridal and I could possibly offend the bride/her guests. I obviously do not mean to do that at all, so I’m wondering if I should return the dress and try to find another one over the next couple of days (although it would be kind of hard, since I’ll only really have Saturday to shop around because of work).

It is a beautiful dress, although yes it does look kind of bridesmaid ish as long as it is not the same colour as the colour scheme of the wedding I think you will be fine. If you wear a wrap/cardigan as well that will be better. You could look online to see if you can order something else to arrive before hand and then return this one after if you are really worried. Di you know anyone else going to the wedding you could ask if they think it is ok and that the bride wont be offended.

View quoted message Thank you so much for your advice, Charlotte!


I don’t know the colour scheme, though I do have a way of finding out and will get on that right away. I would definitely be wearing the pink shawl in the picture so as to give the ensemble a little bit more colour.
About looking for something online, I have been doing that for a few days now and have not found much that I would be comfortable wearing (usually dresses are either too skimpy or kind of matronly — maybe I’m just not familiar with the right brands, or maybe I’m not used to the style over here). I was told to go have a look at the shops near Finsbury Park, which I will be doing on Saturday, but I just want to make sure the dress I already bought is OK in case I don’t end up finding anything in the end.

I think the wrap helps it look less bridal

I think a bright pink hat or fascination and bag and it will be fine

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Honestly I think you will be fine, as Marcie says, if you can accessorize with bag and fascinator/headpiece then that will be enough to distinguish you as a guest. If the colour scheme is not pink then I say go for it and wear it. Even if it is pink you will be fine as BM's will likely be in full colour block dresses. It is great that you are being so considerate to ask but you look stunning in it so go for it, i wouldn't have a problem if you were a guest at my wedding and wore that, it shows you have made an effort X

Thank you so much, Caroline, Marcie and Charlotte! I would definitely wear the shawl and a colorful bag, which I think would make it OK…


I have just found out though that the colour scheme is white and gold. Sorry to be a pain, but do you guys still think it would be fine considering this new bit of information? I swear it’s the last I’ll ask about it 😂
Thank you again, you are all so wonderful 🙏🏻

I would have no issue if you came to my wedding in this dress. It’s a lovely outfit and you look great! Good luck and have a good day at the wedding!

View quoted message Thank you so much, that’s very kind of you! I have decided to go ahead with it after all the supportive comments on here. Thank you again to everyone who replied, you have been of incredible help!!! ♥️

It’s looks white/cream - which is something you should avoid for an English wedding. I personally wouldn’t be happy if anyone turned up wearing any shade of white when there are so many dress options out there.
Sorry to be negative but I showed my friends and they all said the same (all British) x

So did you wear it? I hope you did and there was no issue x

Thank you, Jem, for your advice!

And yes, Charlotte, I did wear it and it was absolutely fine 🙌🏻 No one was the least bit bothered and I got quite a few compliments. I’d like to thank you all again for the help, you guys are amazing. Hope every one of you has a very special wedding day! ♥️

I would say no personally, because the bottom half resembles a wedding dress, not to mention it’s white - it’s a bit of an unspoken rule not to do that.

View quoted message Ah amazing, so glad it all worked out OK x